Don’t be a Woman Who Fits In
It’s cool to complain in a group of girlfriends. It’s cool to bitch and back-stab, because we’re so much more perfect than so-and-so, right? It’s cool to get together and complain about men, and talk about how many jerks there are out there – and then sit there befuddled, because you don’t know what to do about it.
It’s cool to ruthlessly chase a career, and it’s cool to place your man second to said career.
It’s cool to get blind drunk and fall on the floor every Saturday night, week in, week out.
It’s pretty cool to dress in revealing clothes. It’s cool to sleep with lots of hot men. When did it become an ‘achievement’ for women to sleep with lots of different, good-looking men??
‘Sex’ is easy to come by. Money can buy it. Heck, it may even come for free with the right box of cereal.
But what happened to the Ladies? What happened to women with high standards? What happened to the women leaders?
We live in a society where we’re taught to be cool. To fit in. Social norms are the rules and the fat of the bell curve is where we should belong.
The great thinker, Tim Ferriss once said that there’s more competition in the middle of the bell curve…than there is at the top. Be ahead of the curve.
But you risk being UNcool when you leave the fat of the bell curve.
It’s UNcool to be very emotional in public.
It’s UNcool to admit defeat.
It’s UNcool to admit vulnerabilities.
It’s UNcool to have unconventional dreams and believe in them.
It’s uncool to be authentic, because standing up for yourself and having absolute certainty may actually make others feel threatened by you because of their own lack of certainty – thereby, leading you to feel less connected to and loved by other people, causing most to sacrifice their dreams for fear of other people not accepting them or not loving them.
See, ‘fitting in’ works for momentary pleasure. But standing out, and having solid values is what will give you ultimate fulfillment. The worst thing is to live your life the way others expect you to. To do what everyone else is doing because otherwise, you’ll be a social outcast.
Fitting in leads to mediocrity. Mediocrity leads to a life that may be OK, but is certainly not going to be exciting, passion filled, and red hot and spicy.
Question: Are you one who fits in? Or do you prefer to stand out? Who do you know that has been outstanding in one or many parts of their life by not fitting in with the crowd but instead believing in themselves?