
The Case for Going Without Make up – How to rock the Look
‘True Feminine Radiance comes from Within.’
Most sites for women tell you how to put make up ON and how to do it perfectly. Well; this is really counter-intuitive, but I have to say that if you want to attract good men in to your life; go without make up during the day, from time to time (filtering out men who want their woman to always wear make up). From personal experience, I have found that men actually seem to notice me more/are more likely to strike up a conversation with me.
Not to mention that wearing make up has nothing to do with how attractive you are. This article is not about going without make up all the time, it’s about being able to have the freedom to actually go without make up if you have to/if you wish.
Now, I know that my sister blogger Melina advocates not leaving the house without mascara. On this point, I beg to differ. I have left the house many times without make up, and I love it. I recommend it to every woman. I’m not here to tell you whether you should wear make up or not, however. That’s entirely up to you.
Here are 5 GOOD reasons why you might want to go without make up:
5. As humans, we tend to notice contrast. These days, if you go without make up, you stand out from the crowd. Most women wear make up. You may think you look washed out, tired, and un-pretty, but again, as a matter of contrast – this is probably true for YOU because you’re used to wearing make up, but not for others who are first meeting you! And the people who know you will get used to it.
By the way, I’m not talking about the ‘bad’ kind of contrast here. I’m talking about how the look of natural beauty is a huge contrast to most women who are wearing make up. But, this doesn’t mean that a woman should stop taking care of her appearance.
And please, don’t try it once, get all worried, and never do it again – it may take a few goes to get used to it!
4. A woman who doesn’t feel the need to wear make up is fascinating. She’s not trying to be anything. She’s authentically who she is. To a man, if you can go without make-up, this shows you’re very confident. Men and women alike will wonder “what makes her so confident?! Why can’t I do that?!!”
But that’s just the beginning. To a man, it shows that you’re more likely to accept him without judgments. If you have the courage to not succumb to pressure and go without make-up, and accept yourself AS YOU ARE, you come across as the kind of person who would be less likely to judge others. This is all a very subconscious process that we humans go through in our minds.
Think about it: who are mostly the women who snob men off and judge them? The women who obsess over looking perfect, and appearing like very few men are good enough for her.
lack of make-up also makes you seem fascinating because a woman with confidence is a in the minority. It also make you more mysterious.
3. This may not be true with everybody, but I have found that going without make up makes you look younger. It gives a look of authentic innocence and youth. Of course, if you’re not healthy, it won’t work out for you. If you have really bad dark circles, dry, flaky skin etc, it won’t help with the no make up look.
2. I’m really passionate about this one: I have found that foundation actually takes AWAY the natural radiance and glow of my skin!! It gives the image of a clear complexion (though it will never cover up pimples and bad skin properly) and ‘patch-less’ looking skin.
But I have found that, if you’re healthy, the ‘patches’ on your skin will be non-existent, and will be replaced with spots of glowing redness or just an overall, natural, radiant glow in of itself.
But that natural glow of the skin, if it is there, is actually taken AWAY by foundation!
“A woman who cannot be ugly is not beautiful” – Karl Kraus
1. Going without make up forces you to work on the inside. It forces you to be truly OK with who you are. The outside canvas will dissipate with passing years, as father time does his handy work. And by that time, you’re really going to have to know how to feel attractive without make up; without the outer canvas fooling you in to thinking it is the Queen of everything, and the fixer of all your problems.
Of course, going without make up is not ideal for every situation, as you would already know. But, every woman should learn how to let her natural beauty radiate from within, right through the outer layers of her skin. Not to mention that make up is full of very harsh chemicals that have a very real chance of being absorbed in to your skin and other various orifices on your body.
So here are some ways to rock the natural look:
1. Make sure that your hair is clean and fresh. When your hair is at its best, it helps to radiate the overall natural look of radiance. Depending on your individual facial features, you’ll need to choose whether having your hair up or down suits you better when going without make up. Perhaps you can do both!
2. Eat a diet of mainly raw foods. You will be surprised that this is a much better cosmetic than your foundation and other types of make up. Aside from a raw food diet, make sure to cleanse and detox regularly. Make it a habit. You can’t pull off the no make up look when your skin is dull and lifeless from your bad diet.
3. Keep alcohol to a minimum. It really doesn’t help, sister. Not to mention it’s really great for premature aging.
4. Exercise regularly and alternate between cardio work outs as well as doing light weights, tabata exercises and plyometrics. Sweating helps detoxify your body, and refreshes your skin, helping you pull off a natural look. It HAS to come from within!
5. Exfoliate (not every day), cleanse, tone and moisturize. Unless you live in a sub-tropical environment, you most likely have problems with dry skin, so make sure you use a good organic moisturizer.
6. Take a good Omega-3 oil supplement like Krill Oil. Good fats help to keep the skin plump, making you look and feel more youthful.
7. SMILE!!
8. Pay close attention to the clothes you’re wearing. Try not to wear anything too dull in color. Often, wearing something floral and extra-feminine like a colorful maxi dress helps brighten up your overall look.
Going without make up also helps give you character. Individuality. When you learn to love it, it also gives you an enormous sense of freedom! And, I think most women would be surprised by the number of men who would say that they prefer their woman without make up (of course a woman needs versatility, still!). Especially when she’s spending quiet, quality time with him.
Do you ever go without make up? Do you think it’s easy to pull off? Do you think men notice you more when you’re not wearing make up? Do you agree with this post, or do you think no woman should ever leave the house without mascara at least?

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Nana
91 days ago
I already left a comment on this article but since I got back here I want to add some thoughts again
I’m in my late 20s, I’m french and everytime I wore make up (very rarely) I felt like it was not me. I feel like I wear a mask and I’m rather worried about people discovering that it’s not really my real face than having them thinking I don’t have a pretty one without makeup. Actually I always got the deep feeling that make up means you’re not pretty enough naturally so you have to do something about that…
I just wear some black line around my eyes but it’s rare. At Christmas I may wear lipstick though and I feellike a little girl having fun with moms make up. I read often girls saying they dont wear make up, juste some foundation, blush and maskara…wow girls, this IS make up. Nothing is more genuine than a free skin (without fondation) allowing your glow/radiance to show up as Renee said. Eat clean, exercice, wash and hydrate your skin with the good products for you ( go to the dermatologist, it could change your life!), be happy and you won’t feel the need to wear a mask anymore…you’ll know you’re pretty enough and will be happy to show the real you to the world. You’ll save money, time and attract men who appreciate real beauty, not only fake ones, so men who prefer real things not fake ones, no matter how “pretty” fake things are. I think make up is magic and can be considered art but that it should be kept for special occasions and not for a day basis cause it truly transform your face and so it is a lie…
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Frances
108 days ago
I like how put together some women look while wearing makeup, but have neither the time nor the talent to do it myself. My routine is down to a tinted moisturizer (Physician’s Formula has an organic one that I like), a bit of color on my cheeks, some lip balm, and maybe a little eye shadow. Mascara just makes the dark circles under my eyes more pronounced, so I occasionally will dabble with some brown eyeliner.
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Michelle
127 days ago
Look at French women. They barely wear makeup and are far more attractive than the American over- bleached, overdone masses.
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mplo
129 days ago
Although I went through a stage of wearing eye-liner and masquara when I was in high school, I found that it produced more eye problems in addition to my already-existing “dry-eye” problems. So, I gave up wearing eye make up, even for special occasions, and haven’t worn it since. It’s not worth it.
While it’s true that some girls and/or women who are extremely pale and scrawny need some make-up, I have never fallen into that category. I’ve had enough eye problems without eye-make-up, so I’m not afraid to go without it. In fact, I’m better off for it.
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Amy
140 days ago
I kind of think this attitude is detrimental. I know it wasn’t meant to be but i believe it is. I’m hearing more & more now that women should go natural because those who wear make-up are insecure and not really pretty underneath it all. So now the standard is being increased. Not only should you be beautiful, but you should be NATURALLY beautiful. How many women fit in this category though? Not many can look like the model you’ve posted above. It’s just another thing to add to the list. Be skinny – but also toned. Be beautiful – but naturally so…
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Orchid Reply:
February 10th, 2013 at 9:11 pm
Ehm, ALL women fit into it. What is this idea of beauty you have?
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anon
188 days ago
No, fish oil is bad for you. Read Ray Peat’s article The Great Fish Oil Experiment to find out why:
http://raypeat.com/articles/
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nunyabiz
209 days ago
try using niacinamide powder (5 percent) mixed in distilled water. make a spray bottle of it. it helps with discolorations and fine lines and dry skin. its been working wonders for me! so no need for make up. I pray other women read this and save themselves a lot of trouble of trying to find the right products for their skin.
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Nana
221 days ago
Very good article. Plus make-up can’t always be used as a way to hide what you think is ugly on your face, because if you do that, it means that there is something wrong basically with the way you’re living : do you eat well, do you sleep well, are you stressed out? etc. So instead of hiding, you better work on deeply ameliorating your way of life. The beauty that will show up will be much more true and radiant than the artificial beauty that make-up brings. Get the right haircut/up do, the right hair and skin condition and matching clothes and there you go !!
Of course it’s always nice to look sophisticated and having the ability to change your face, painting it like it’s a piece of Art lol, but really I think that make-up has to be a “bonus”, not a sine qua non condition to be beautiful and feminine.
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Kate
272 days ago
excellent post! i’m 23 and i’ve already given up on makeup, lol. i was never big into full makeup – i’ve never worn foundation because i’ve been blessed with excellent skin, and so i’ve mostly played around with eye makeup and lip stuff, occasionally blush. but time and time again, ive found it to be a waste of money. i’ll think to myself “i’m going to try and see what this whole makeup fuss is about so i can be more like all of the other girls” and go to buy some, and i’ll wear it once or twice and then forget about it. i’m not a tomboy, i like to keep myself looking nice but idk. i just don’t feel like i need makeup to do that. i think i look pretty enough without it, and i agree that just maintaining good health can be enough to keep you looking good. i’ve found that i usually think girls look better with little to no makeup on, rather than a full face, and i don’t understand the obsession with it. hopefully more ppl will learn to embrace their natural looks!
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Renee Wade Reply:
September 21st, 2012 at 3:41 pm
Hey Kate, thanks for the nice comment. Yes, sometimes it’s difficult for a lot of women to not wear it. A combination of peer pressure and insecurity makes the choice not to wear it hard at the least and unfathomable at the worst.
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schatzi
348 days ago
I am 59 and recently had to exchange wearing contact lenses for line-less bi-focal glasses due to having very poor vision. I chose very classic, stylish frames, with Transition lenses that darken in the sun. I find that I really don’t like the look of eye-makeup under my lenses and feel that it makes me look older. So I lightened my hair and started wearing only a bit of pink blush (because I’m very pale) on my cheekbones and a dab of pink – never red or brown – lipstick. These little changes took 10 years of my looks! I feel fresher, prettier, and more confident since I’m not always worried if my makeup is smeared or not perfect. I am fortunate to have good skin, and all I use is a moisturizing cleanser and a bit of eye cream under my glasses. I would suggest also paying close attention to facial hair if you choose to go without or lighten up on the make-up, especially for brunettes. I still wear alittle makeup for special occasions bu no where near what I used to wear. I still think it’s fun, though. There IS something sexy about eyeliner, but with glasses, it’s not worth the effort.
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georgiagirl
351 days ago
Hello,
I have read almost all the articles on this site in the past 24 hours! Great advice, I enjoyed the one about giving a man space & allowing him to be a man. This one really stood out too me though. I am 26 & I live in Georgia, USA. A true “southern girl”.
I have always loved makeup, I started wearing blush/eyeshadow & lipstick when I was 6! I would try to “copy” my Barbies different looks and I just enjoyed playing w/ the colors. I have blonde hair & green eyes/blonde eyelashes. I used too believe that I “needed” it too Abby beautiful and attract a man but in the past year I have been on a self imposed “journey” to become more confident & know myself better. As I have been on this journey of becoming comfortable w/ myself I have noticed I am more confident going without makeup.
When my skin is clear & radiant I will cover up under eye circles and apply some blush and I feel beautiful just as I am. I do feel men like a woman tl tone it down & not apply gobs of thick eye makeup ofcourse I believe their is a time for dressing it all up but if you’re just hanging out, watching a movie then just be casual. My ex bf of 2 yrs loved me to not wear it & the guy I’m “seeing/in a way” now he prefers me natural or with some light Concealer, blush & clear or light brown mascara. I truly believe it comes down to taking care of your skin & health. Radiating confidence & having naturally glowing skin is much more attractive than a face full of cover ups & dark colors.
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Lulu
354 days ago
The idea of putting on makeup is to focus on taking care of your appearance. Putting on make-up is not a must but taking care of one’s appearance is.
I’m not a huge fan of extremes so while emphasizing on the importance of make-up is not necessary, it’s also kinda stupid to associate being make-up free with a being a better/special woman.
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minnie
568 days ago
I never wear make-up, but I am 23 and I look 12 years old. I am very petite and wearing makeup helps me look older. People do not know my age until they speak with me and notice my maturity and guys won’t approach me because I look so young.
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Jen
568 days ago
As much as I would love to go without make-up and envy the women that can, I have very fair skin and acne scars. I used to have perfect, porcelain skin and then out of nowhere I had mild acne in my early 20s. I am now 27 and trying everything I can afford to get rid of these or lighten the dark pigmentation. I would be so much less self-conscious without make-up if I didn’t have this issue. Someday, I hope i can go out in no make-up and not feel ashamed
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georgiagirl Reply:
July 4th, 2012 at 7:40 am
Have you tried microdermabrasion (otc or @ a dermatologist?)
Also I believe a facial “Peel” or lazar work can help that.
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Rachela
595 days ago
Hmmm, maybe this has already been brought up (I couldn’t find it below), but what about really oily skin? I love going without makeup, but for the shininess :-/ It just looks so, well, dirty. Any tips for being, not flawless, but MATTE, without makeup?
Great article, too!
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mary89
646 days ago
I totally agree! Great post. Sometimes when you are without make-up, you make others think: “Well…. she is enough beautiful. She doesn’t need cosmetics!” even if you are an average looking woman.
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Deborah
759 days ago
I was the person who posted below about the experiment in a night club of one night going with makeup on and another night without. Since then, and that is many years since, I have mainly gone with the no make up look. I am much more confident in looking more natural and have learned how to wear the right clothing so makeup is not so necessary. It has also been interesting to educate my male friends about what natural without makeup really looks like. They are fooled about the natural look that is attained with makeup. When they truly see women without any makeup on at all they are shocked to see what women really look like. We have such a pressure in society to look a certain kind of way to be considered attractive that is really sad. And if we are caught without our face on, we feel bad about ourselves the way we naturally are. The time and energy to put on a false face to the world is exhausting and depressing. I have found that being more real and authentic around people has improved my relationships and I hardly ever think about whether I am pretty enough etc. The men that decide you are better with makeup on are not the kind of shallow men I want in my life. I now take the energy and time that it took to put on makeup and do other more fun things. The time that has been freed up is incredible to say the least. Anyways, great posts gals. I always enjoy returning to this site from time to time.
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Kara
765 days ago
I LOVE THIS POST SO MUCH! It’s nice to know that others agree that make-up is definitely NOT necessary for everyday life. I am 18 as of this year and have not worn makeup my entire life, besides one year in early middle school where I only experimented with mascara. I do believe it is hard sometimes though when it seems like you are the only one comfortably pulling off the no make-up look, especially when it seems like most college guys only look at girls with make-up. It is frustrating even at times when it seems like they (guys this age) are so easily fooled by the make-up, believing that some girls are wearing barely any, when in reality they are wearing A LOT.
I absolutely agree that guys, the Right guys, will notice you more. If you do not feel this way, stick with it, I promise you they will. Early college years, to me, seem to have the toughest temptations for pushing aside the no make-up look. The smartest thing and most important thing you can realize is that if you feel like you Have to wear make-up in order to attract a guy, you have A Lot of personal aspects of yourself to work on. I honestly believe that you do not need make-up to look pretty; I think everyone has something naturally beautiful, they just need to find it.
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Kara Reply:
May 17th, 2011 at 11:49 am
***The smartest thing and most important thing you can realize is that if you feel like you Have to wear make-up in order to attract a guy OR just to make yourself feel better, than you have A Lot of personal aspects of yourself to work on.
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Deborah
815 days ago
I have an interesting story to share about not wearing makeup versus wearing it. I am a very pale blonde with hazel eyes. I have been told I look somewhat plain and blank without makeup. I decided to do an experiment….as follows: I am a vivacious and very friendly gal whether I wear makeup or not so the behavior in this experiment was the same for the two nights I implemented it. I went out on a Friday night to a local club with a friend wearing a pretty dress and no makeup. I got a few offers to dance but generally was pretty much ignored by the men there. I was not asked for my number or asked out. The next Friday night I wore the exact same dress, however, was wearing pretty makeup and boy, what a difference. The men were eyeing me, asking me to dance all night long and interestingly enough stating continuously what gorgeous sexy eyes I had. The way I apply makeup makes my eyes pop and stand out. I was asked for my phone number by a couple of men and one guy asked me out on a date for the next night. My point here, is that it all really depends on how a woman looks naturally without makeup……I find my fellow women friends that have darker hair, lashes and eyebrows can get away without makeup easier than us very fair blonde gals. Any comments?
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Meg Reply:
May 10th, 2011 at 9:01 am
I totally get that. I am blonde with blue eyes and blonde eyelashes. When I do not wear eye makeup I look totally washed out do not feel as confident. My boyfriend says that he likes me without makeup and does not understand that I do not like to go to public places without it. I have always worn makeup and have my hair fixed. I do not want to be one of those women who let themselves go. But he thinks I should be able to go to his work and go in without it. Uh,,, no. He works at a dr.s office. But my gradmother also told me a lady never enters the front room without being ready for visitors… so that probably didn’t help with my issue either
lol
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Aneesa Reply:
December 18th, 2011 at 9:17 pm
personally, i think the problem with this experiment is that you’re probably used to wearing make up, so on the test day of being make up free, you lacked the temporary confidence that make up gives you, which is the ultimate thing that determined whether or not men would approach you. i think you already had the built in mindset that men would not approach you without make up, and so you unconsciously repelled them because of it.
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Helen
903 days ago
I’ve had dark under-eye circles since I can remember. And to top it of I have a pale skin and dark brown hair. It doesn’t matter what clothes I put on my dark circles always stand out. Having make up on doesn’t make me someone else, it actually helps for others to see who I am on the inside. If I didn’t have bad dark circles I would wear no make up at all
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LuLu Reply:
December 13th, 2011 at 10:50 pm
What’s worse is when those dark under-eye circles are PERMANENT because of the way the eyes are hollowed
No amount of skincare or sleep can diminish that darkness, which is my case.
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lacey
938 days ago
i’m in high school..and yea i definitely have more respect towards those girls that come to school without make up on! i think it’s very hard to do…but i’ll do it one day..
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Priti
1004 days ago
Hi there!!!
Can anyone please tell me a good herbal lip balm that i can buy from ebay or so?
It wud be a great help
Thanks
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Amelia
1016 days ago
I have never really been interested in make up. I have worn it to special occasions, mostly weddings. I have always felt a little odd when wearing it. I do keep my skin clean and moisturized and my eyebrows neat and I do wear lip gloss. I have friends who are make up artists and they like to use me because they say my face holds color really well but as soon as they have taken their pictures it comes right off. lol My boyfriend told me he doesn’t like make up because it is a distraction. He says that when he sees a woman wearing, even a little bit of make up like eyeliner, thats all he can pay attention to. He tells me that my eyes are big and bright enough. It blew my mind when he told me that most men don’t like make up or could care less about it.
My younger sister is the one who wears make up a lot. I am 6 years older and my skin looks so much better than hers because of her use of foundation. Lately, she has been using less of it and just doing her eyes and lipstick and its already starting to clear up a little.
So I got curious about what started the idea that women had to be hairless except for on their heads. The idea of shaving our legs came from razor manufactures during the 1920s when women’s dresses were getting shorter. Razor manufactures saw an opportunity to sell not just to men but to women too. They advertised that to feel more feminine and attractive women should shave their legs. That women should be smooth and soft like babies. my boyfriend told me that if I didn’t shave my legs or armpits he didn’t care, it is nice when I do and he likes the feel of smooth legs but he doesn’t think… “ewww her legs are hairy. I don’t want to touch her.”
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fashionista Reply:
January 1st, 2011 at 6:43 pm
Amelia, your boyfriend doesn’t know what he is talking about–I mean that in the sweetest way, really
–he just thinks that the beautiful women that he sees “without make-up” are really not wearing make-up when they are in-fact wearing it, its just that they make it look so natural it fools him. Example, pick-up or borrow January’s Cosmopolitan magazine/issue (2011) p.153, they have an article on the kind of make-up men like and what they don’t. They showed 2 different pictures of movie stars–one with make-up on and one without make-up on. Guess what, OVERWHELMINGLY men picked the pictures of the women WITH MAKE-UP ON as their favorite, its just that the made up women looked as if they didn’t have make-up on. As for the pictures of the women without make-up on, to the men they looked too plain. Which makes me think that all men who think that movie stars (or everyday women who wear undetectable make-up) that look so beautiful natural and then expect real, everyday women (who don’t wear any make-up) to look the same are really being unrealistic and uninformed about the way real women look. I don’t wear make-up myself but I thought it was interesting and thought I would mention it.
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mplo Reply:
February 10th, 2013 at 11:41 pm
It takes a really experienced woman to put on just the amount of make-up to make her look like she has a beautiful skin, even if she doesn’t. Most women and girls don’t know how to put on make-up, which is why they often put on so much of it that they look really cheap.
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Mary
1068 days ago
You’ve written some wonderful articles! I especially enjoy How to be mysterious.
I live in one of the southern states (USA) and the women who don’t wear makeup are either foreign, not from the south, or their husbands are effeminate. Otherwise, no southern woman worth her salt leaves the house without at least lipstick and/or mascara and eyeliner.
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Renee Reply:
July 18th, 2010 at 3:23 am
Hey Mary, I didn’t want people to think I was condoning being careless and/or masculine-looking. I know very well that many people associate not wearing make-up with the so called butch type of woman.
But, have we not ALL also seen many a classless and nasty and more masculine woman WITH make up on?
It’s about INNER radiance.
I personally have seen several a very feminine and radiant woman without make up who was still pretty and gorgeous.
It’s really about health and having the freedom to go without it. I can do either, and enjoy that freedom. Thanks for your compliment, Mary
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Aphrodite
1071 days ago
Hi Renee, I read all your articles and this is the one I love the most, why? I am a lady without make up. I’m using only trusted skin care products. For my lips, I just apply Lip Ice from Bloom. When you confident with your skin, you don’t need make up… Thanks for this post… -xXx-
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andrea
1078 days ago
Great post! I usually go without makeup everywhere (work, errands etc.). I don’t wear foundation, I hate the feeling of stuff on my face! Sometimes I’ll put a bit of powder on my nose if it’s really red.
I love eye makeup and wear that occasionally, just because I like the pretty colors. But lipstick I can do without!
Lipstick just interferes with daily life, like eating, drinking, and kissing…lol. A bit of lip balm is enough for me.
I find my skin is clearer and smoother without layers of stuff–it’s true! And I am a feminine woman, love dresses, cute shoes. You can definitly still look put together without make up on. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re lazy. I take really good care of my skin and make sure I wash regularly and smell nice. My man loves me natural–no make up or even hair products. It’s great!
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S
1081 days ago
I do love this article Renee! I also believe that with makeup, if you put it on it should be to enhance features, not to hide or add them! I must admit that I can’t resist lipstick in pretty tubes and I wear that every day. I’ve never worn foundation or coverup and I constantly get compliments about my skin or people asking how I keep it so clear and soft. Every girl I know who wears foundation doesn’t even need to! I try to convince them not to (I’ve won a few over!) but I’ve honestly never met anyone who needs to wear it. It just takes away from their natural beauty!
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Yas
1082 days ago
Oh I am SO happy you wrote this article!!! I agree with every word!!
When my boyfriend and I just started seeing each other, we were getting ready to go out one night and he kindly suggested not to put any makeup on. I was confused.. I thought “NO makeup?! Huh?!” For some reason, I always thought men preferred women with makeup.
My boyfriend said my eyes look brighter and I look cuter, younger and more innocent without it. He also often says I look the cutest first thing in the morning, without any makeup. Personally I always thought I looked the worst first thing in the morning!!
It comes back to what you’ve been saying all along Renee.. the polarity between masculine and feminine. My boyfriend feels more like a man when I have less to no makeup on, because he feels I look more feminine, real and innocent
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stefanie
1082 days ago
Oooh Masalaan, I’ve got a funny article to read for you:
http://www.adelaidenow.com.au/news/women-dont-buy-from-pretty-staff/story-e6freo8c-1225760823541
And Lana, I might only be 25 right now, but my boyfriend already told me he wouldn’t like me coloring my hair when I ever get gray! Guess he’s not afraid of commitment, to look so far ahead
Renee – it IS just it: different. Not less, not more, just a different beauty.
I just love this discussion!
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Renee
1082 days ago
@Stefanie: yes, it is a bother to wipe it all off. I always wear it when I’m out at night. But it takes me so long just to put mascara on!
And I have blonde lashes so when I go without it, I look VERY different but that’s it: just different.
@ Masaleen: “The respondents found the two women with makeup on, regardless of whether she was wearing glasses, to be the most desirable to buy from.”
Interesting. Maybe the two wearing make up felt more confident and open? Because, ‘the most desirable to buy from’ could mean many different things….
And Masaleen, I wear make up probably 50% of the time as well. If I go out at night I at least wear mascara and eyeshadow. And a little blush. But in general I’m happy with the fact that I don’t absolutely HAVE to wear it.
@ Oli: love your analogy.
@ Lana: yes, perhaps some of the older ladies can tell us what they think about coloring or not coloring your hair when you go gray??
@ Amara: Thanks lovely! Love you too.
@ Helena: Yes! Mascara can make my eyes ache as well. And I find that when I do wear it, although it looks nice, my eyes get very itchy and dry…..
And, I still have a lot of trouble using liquid eyeliner, which I wear maybe once a year because I cannot see very well out of my right eye, so I can’t see what I’m doing when I put it on. How on earth does one rectify that problem??!
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Helena
1082 days ago
I so much agree with your article. Personally I’ve never felt good when wearing make-up, it kind of gives a feeling as if you were wearing a mask on your face, so lifeless and fake. And mascara makes my eyes ache:)
Here in Estonia majority of girls at my age (~19 y/o) do wear make up so I sometimes feel quite unconfident about my look. However, I’ve noticed that on days I don’t wear up, boys/men notice me more and being real also gives a good mood.
By the way, it’s a really interesting page. Thanks!:)
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Luci
1083 days ago
Masaleen – That’s quite unfair and sexist that people believe this [about the experiment with whom to buy from]… but on the other hand it’s no surprise when we consider the strong influence of magazines, advertisements and media in general.
[Yeah I'm a believer in what I said before: "if men don’t feel that they should be ashamed for how their face looks naturally, why should we?" I don't accept that just because of my sex I should paint chemicals on my face to be acceptable to the world].
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Amara
1083 days ago
Might I add that lip gloss is a must have and lip liner mascara, eye liner and eye shadow is me making an extra effort!!
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Amara
1083 days ago
I hardly ever where make up!! Not fussed about it. I may make an effort once in a while and have felt unfeminine about this habit of going out without make up!! Thanks to you I feel confident and very feminine and grateful I did not fall into society’s standards of femininity!! Love you Renee!!
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Lana
1083 days ago
Related topice…to go gray or to color your hair!!! I’ve read a great book on the reasons to let your hair go gray (while keeping up your appearance).
I agree that if a woman wears no makeup but looks haggard and lifeless it doesn’t look good. But if a woman has great healthly skin and is taking care of her appearance and style she can look great without makeup. I know of guys who prefer women without makeup and othesr who prefer them with it. To me it’s simply a matter of taste.
I like to wear just the right amount of makeup that makes me feel naturally beautiful.
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nicole
1083 days ago
I really like this discussion but I don’t agree with it now that I’m 47 and living in a dry climate which has made my skin age more quickly than in a humid climate. Up until my early 40s I felt confident not wearing makeup. I never wore foundation either. I am very nordic in my look: blond eyelashes, pale white skin, very blond eyebrows. But now in my late 40s, these features give me a washed out look even if I eat right. You barely see my eyebrows and my eyelashes and now my thin pale skin gives me dark circles under the eyes because the veins are close to the surface.
I still go out without makeup a lot because I don’t care what people think and I’m lazy
but I do notice that men don’t notice me because I have no color, no striking features.
I think going out without makeup was great for me until gravity and age starting taking over. I’m not bitter about this, just realistic. I don’t stand out without makeup. But I still go out without makeup because I’m pretty care free, not high maintenance. However, like I said, I do not get noticed.
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oli
1084 days ago
I love to cook, so I am going to liken make up to seasoning and spice. Sometimes I want a little more ( depending on the ingredients, their characteristics and mode of preparation), sometimes I want less or none at all. All depends on my mood (which can depend on a myriad different things) and of course who I am cooking for.
Your dish (face) can be perfect no matter how much seasoning/spice (make up) you choose to use…. more or less…or none. As every cook knows simply make sure that the main ingredients are fresh and in good condition and seasoning/spice used in the right proportion…
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Masaleen
1084 days ago
I only started wearing makeup in my late teens, so I’m pretty used to going without makeup. I wear makeup about 50% of the time, and almost every time I do anything even semi-formal, like going to church, work, meeting new people. I think it’s ridiculous to be too scared to show yourself in public without makeup – on the other hand, if you’re not scared to but feel more respectable and feminine with some on, then I would encourage it for these ALREADY confident women. And if your man likes you without makeup, he’ll see you PLENTY of times without it anyway, even if you like to wear it OUT all the time. He’ll see you makeup-less at night, after showers, when you’re not going out, etc.
Also, I read about a study that asked people which women looked most approachable and professional to them. There were four booths and one woman at each trying to sell something; two without glasses and two with, and one woman in each had makeup on. The respondents found the two women with makeup on, regardless of whether she was wearing glasses, to be the most desirable to buy from. So I think in professional situations when you want people to take you seriously, makeup is essential.
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Ettisen
1084 days ago
It is nice to be able to go without make-up. However, I just love make-up, not too much. I can go without, little and a lot depending on how I am feeling. Today I will wear a little gloss and mascara and groom my brows to run my errands with the kids.
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Catherine
1084 days ago
I just enjoy some lip gloss, and like to keep my fire starter eye brows in shape
I think it’s one of those things that has it’s place. I think it is great if a woman enjoys putting some on, for expression, like art, but to feel you HAVE to, to look beautiful – not true.
Everyone has beauty, I think look after the inside, and the outside will show it
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VolleyGirl
1084 days ago
In my early teens I decided to use make up simply because my acne was so bad that I didn’t feel confortable on my own skin.
Even if I only had to go to the shop on the corner, I wouldn’t leave the house without make up on!!
Wearing make up didn’t clear my skin but at least I felt like I could face the world. Only when I decided to go to my doctor when he prescribed a cream and my skin started to clear, was when I was brave enough to go out without make up on.
To be honest, make up was of great help to me,when I was feeling really insecure about myself. I really hated having acne !!
Nowadayas I don’t have any problems going out without make up on. It’s like a weight was taken off my shoulders.
I think whether women wear make up or not , is up to them.
Good article, Renee.
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stefanie
1084 days ago
I never wear make-up!
I used to wear it all the time, as an insecure young teenager. It was about fitting in and being “better than myself”.
Then I wore it occasionally in my late teens and early twenties – for parties, or just when I felt like it. I realized that most of the make-up only made you look better for pictures, but not in real life and natural light.
Now I’m in my mid-twenties and I never wear it. Because from up real close, it doesn’t make you any more beautiful. But it does make you more fake-looking. My boyfriend hates the feel of it. I dislike having to rub it all off at night (those removers never did as they promised). I dislike the itchy eyes I get when I accidentally rub it in when I’m sleepy. I dislike the way it looks after a very rainy fay.
My lashes are black naturally. I curl them a bit when I want to look pretty. My brows look better when tamed, so I pluck and cut and sometimes bleach just a little (looks less severe). My lips look better when I use a balm/chapstick often, so I do that. When I want to look particularly radiant, I use just a tiny bit of self-tanner. I use this glossing sort of nailfile to make my nails look better. And I have a red umbrella! Which sheds a most flattering light on those rainy days
In the Netherlands, women don’t wear as much make-up as in most other countries. Foundation isn’t very popular here. Most young girls only wear mascara. So I don’t really stand out
I believe that women look more beautiful without it – even blond lashes (whoever said they were ugly???). I believe that painting your face is a good way to feel more confident in social warfare, but it shouldn’t have to be a daily mask. I believe that the only reason men in other countries generally prefer some make-up over none (they don’t in NL), is that they associate it with making an effort/dressing up/happiness. It’s not that they think your skin, your lips, your eyes are ugly without anything on them. They also know of the social pressure and they don’t want other people thinking their girlfriends don’t put in an effort. And I believe the reason why everybody wants natural make-up, is that natural really just looks better. I don’t judge other women from wearing make-up, but I have noticed that the more insecure, the more they wear – in my social circle at least.
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Renee
1084 days ago
@ Amal: The point of the article was not to judge women who do choose to wear make up all the time – the point of it was to encourage women to have the FREEDOM to go without it, should they wish. Because (as I’ve said in the article, I don’t think a woman needs it to look beautiful).
Not that I think women don’t already have that confidence.
Do you go without wearing make up at all, Amal? Even if you’re running late for coffee with a friend, for eg? And if you can’t, is it just because you think you wouldn’t look your best?
I have come across one too many women who get worried about not wearing it (‘i look so bad without make up!’, ‘omg, I can’t meet him today, I’m not wearing any make up’), etc. The fact is that make up doesn’t determine a woman’s beauty and attractiveness. As was discussed in the recent pre-launch material leading up to the release of Attraction Control.
@ Sachmet: Thanks for your added information on colors!!
@ Talisa: I had heard it was very warm in the UK. Hm. What a change that is!
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Sachmet
1084 days ago
To Lauren and Renee: Do you know that the main ingredient of vaseline is a by-product of crude oil destillation? So you might want to think twice before applying it to your skin.
As far as the colour of your clothes are concerned: Renee, you are absolutely right. The right colour of cloths (especially everything that is near your face) can work wonders on how radiant you look (or not). Though I think even better than concentrating on what colours etc are feminine is getting a thorough season-based colour analysis. It is absolutely astonishing how the “right” colour can light up your face while the wrong one will drains live right out of it. I am an autumn type and one of the lucky people who can actually wear all the colours they like best (no pastels for me, ha).
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Luci
1084 days ago
Hehe I have never picked the habit of wearing make up so it’s normal for me to not use any.
I think the beliefs that we “need” make up are a result of the tricks of cosmetics companies and their decades of advertising and the influence of media in general.
But if men don’t feel that they should be ashamed for how their face looks naturally, why should we?
Nice article.
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Talisa
1084 days ago
Absolutely agree! It’s summer here in London (and it has actually been hot!) and I have been wearing a light tinted moisturiser and really noticed this week how it did actually make my skin look worse. My skin make up free looks so much better and is always spot free. However this week after having worn the make up I have had spots come up. Needless to say I am definitely going back to natural!
I also wanted to add that I am very much a girly girl and love my make up and getting dressed up, however found that I was spending so much time getting ready that by the time I went to leave I was late and stressed because I was late – no smile. Not a good look!! When you realise that beauty comes from inside it truly makes a difference and people naturally are drawn to your magnetism.
Loved Shadelle’s comment it’s all about getting the balance right.
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Amal
1084 days ago
I am sorry but I disagree with most of your article, abeit respectfully. Whether one wears make up or not has nothing to do with confidence – it is an individual choice and is not a reflection of your personality.
Also I dress for myself not in the hope of atracting men’s attention, or about succumbing to peer pressure ( maybe true for teenagers but certainly not for the majority of mature women), it is about taking pride in your appearence as a woman it is your right to be your best self all the time whether it’s with or without make up. Please and let’s not get judgemental and speak of character building requirements about women who wear make up. I have met horrible women as well as genuine wonderful women in both make up wearing/ non make up wearing categories. Let’s all learn to respect women’s choices whatever may they be and not try and impose your beliefs on someone else – this I believe is the hallmark of a truly accepting, genuine, authentic person.
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Renee
1084 days ago
@Denise Christian: thanks for sharing about your young daughters
you sound like a lovely mother. And I, too, have had surprisingly lovely comments when I go out without make up. From women as well! .
@Jenny: go to mercola.com and use the search bar in the top right-hand corner there, search for: ‘skin care’. Just yesterday I ordered his organic skin care range, and am waiting on it. I guess I’ll report back on it when I’ve used it. I’ve always used Guerlain prior to changing to organic, though.
@ Shadelle: Thanks!
I may leave the house without make up sometimes, but I certainly do groom my eyebrows!
@ Uschi: YES! Natural colors are lovely. But, it all depends on your complexion, etc. Not that I’m a make up expert. I didn’t learn how to apply it properly until I turned 23, and I’m still unsure about certain things now!
@ Deborah and Ann: Thank You! Also, Ann, did you say you’re developing a skin care line? A product?
@ Lauren: wowwww, thanks for that tip
I never knew about that before. Is it ok for the skin though? (The Vaseline under the eyes, I mean).
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Lauren
1084 days ago
I completely agree with this.
I might add that leaving your eye brows alone enhances your natural appeal.
Putting vaseline under your eyes before you go to bed works wonders!
My daily make up consists of lip gloss. That’s it. I always seem to get more compliments when I wear my hair curly with that frizzy look too. Guys seem to love it!
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ann
1084 days ago
I agree with you Renee, because I workout on a daily basis and I do not wear make-up to the gym. I don’t have great skin but I know if I would wear make-up to the gym everyday my skin would be in worst shape than it is now. I am working on a skin care line.
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Deborah
1084 days ago
I just asked my husband what he thought about the amount of makeup I wear. He said it was just perfect (gotta love this guy — we’ve been married 29 years). He says he prefers a little, but that too much looks awful. Our two teenage sons agree.
I personally feel naked w/o mascara, and so always put it on. But I’m right with you about the foundation. It can be very aging.
thanks, Renee, for another good article!
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twinkle
1084 days ago
I think it depends on what you look like: If you have sparse eyebrows, its best to put some on. I usually wear only a little mascara, eyeliner, and lipstick myself; when I do
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Uschi
1084 days ago
I have been going without make up for a long time and quite honestly for one reason only – because it takes to much time to put it on or take it off. Only for special occasions do I wear make up. However, now that I am getting on in age (55 very soon to be 56) I feel that sometimes I actually should wear something to make me look a bit more kept up instead of not doing anything at all. Just not sure what is best – most likely natural colors?
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Shadelle
1084 days ago
I agree with this post!!
I have definitely noticed that on days that I don’t feel “pretty” are the days that I get tons of compliments. However, I personally don’t quite believe that going without make up has to do with contrast because I notice quite a LOT of women go without make up. I believe the difference is these women are usually looking haggard and lifeless. They don’t smile, their hair is hidden in a tired bun, and their clothes looked thrown together.
I believe what really attracts the opposite sex is the simplicity of a women with little to no make up on. Perhaps she looks more carefree and helps evoke a sense of peace and comfort. If she is able to retain her femininity yet not have to resort to makeup, then she hold an ethereal pull.
I must note that women wear make up for different reasons. My bff is very artistic so her makeup is always colorful,fun, and expresses her individuality. I, on the other hand, tend to stick to a more classic palette. I believe makeup becomes a problem when it used as a crutch. There should be always balance.
I may side with Melina a bit. I never leave my house without filling/grooming my brows and adding a touch of gloss because I feel it enhances my overall appearance.
I notice that if I take care of my innerself, the outerself follows. So I definitely agree, before any outer cosmetics, my vitamins and bottle of water comes first! Along with a big smile
Great post!!
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Jenny
1084 days ago
I love this post Renee!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us!!
Do you have a skincare line that you like?? I’ve always struggle with finding a really good, organic, natural as possible skin care regime
Would love to know your opinion!
Love ya!
Jenny
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Denise Christian
1084 days ago
I am fifty. LOL
But, this article does have good points.
I would love to comment more… I feel that I need to think a bit. But, I believe this post has a point.
I have gotten great reactions with make up on…..and then…SURPRISING….wonderful comments when I didn’t.
I have always been a pretty girl. But, I honestly didn’t know I was. I see my own two daughters. Oh, sometimes, the makeup really does enhance their features. Then, other times, I see them without ANY makeup….I am amazed at how I…(A woman) love their simple beauty.
So, your post has certainly caught my attention.
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