How to be a Lady

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How to Be a Lady

Have you seen one lately? A lady, I mean. I had to scratch my head a few times to think of one. There are the ‘traditional’ types of ladies, such as Audrey Hepburn and a more modern example – Kate Middleton.

It’s wonderful to be a classy lady, but I believe our society no longer values the ‘uptight’ women who are always trying to please and be perfectly elegant.

I mean, just because one is a lady doesn’t mean she is to be restricted in life. It doesn’t mean she has to be untouchable, and unable to get herself dirty. Confining oneself to strict ladyship only is terribly one-dimensional. And annoying for one’s friends, family and acquaintances.

Firstly, to “define” our subject of interest:

Meaning of a Lady: A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behaviour. A woman who is regarded as proper and virtuous.

If you’re on this blog, my guess is that you’re probably already somewhat a lady. Nonetheless, here are some tips to get you further on your way to ladyship:

1. Be generous with expressions of gratitude such as: ‘Thank You’ and ‘I appreciate that’.

2. Don’t try to bring extra guests to an event, party or function.

3. Don’t say that you need to go to the bathroom; just excuse yourself.

4. When in doubt, dress modestly.

5. If someone smiles at you; smile back.

6. Do try to bring extra guests to an event, party or function. But ask politely first.

7. It is imperative that you develop good posture, which isn’t too hard to achieve.

8. Do say that you need to go to the bathroom, and excuse yourself.

9. Whatever you do, do it with Poise.

10. If a gentleman offers to pay for your dinner, politely accept and say Thank You.

11. If somebody gives you a lift somewhere, say Thank You.

12. Don’t be demanding of favors. Rather inconvenience yourself than burden others with your demands.

13. Don’t engage in casual flings purely out of personal desperation for sex.

14. Don’t keep f*** buddies.

15. Rather your skin be as white as snow than as orange as this.

16. Don’t get fake breasts.

17. Don’t reveal your age, weight or bra size.

18. Respect a man.

19. Model Audrey Hepburn.

20. Reveal your age, weight and bra size.

21. Listen more than you speak.

22. Don’t talk on the phone in movies, in lectures, or at the dinner table.

23. Don’t respect a man if he doesn’t deserve your respect.

24. Wait for people to finish their sentences before you speak.

25. Don’t complain about the weather. You cannot change it anyway.

26. Don’t interrupt other people’s conversations. Politely wait.

27. Wait to be served or to ask a question. Even if it is a quick question.

28. Don’t discuss religion or politics at the dinner table.

29. Don’t speak in a foreign language when there is another person or other people around who do not understand it.

30. Politely report and express your disappointment about a crappy meal/being given something you didn’t order to a waiter; don’t crack it at the waiter.

31. When in Rome, do as Romans do.

32. Be on time.

33. Apologize for being late.

34. Call if you are going to be late.

35. Respect other people’s opinions. Don’t shove your views in their faces as gospel.

36. Don’t be tyrannical.

36. Hear others out before assuming your way of doing things is the superior way.

37. Believe you are number one.

38. Shine the light upon others.

39. Be modest in character.

40. Don’t think you are number one.

41. Don’t laugh at other people’s misfortune.

42. Give other people credit if they have helped you (even if they don’t know they helped you). Give more than they “deserve”.

43. Assume every day is a new beginning.

44. Don’t burp or fart out loud, in front of people.

45. Think before you speak.

46. Don’t scare people (within context).

47. Don’t wear the same jacket as everybody else.

48. Don’t carry weapons.

49. If you say you will do something, follow up on it.

50. Honor anyone who has ever helped you. And never forget that they have helped you.

51. Wear the same jacket as everybody else.

52. Be charming.

53. Don’t tell sexist or racist jokes.

54. Always RSVP to events.

55. Don’t use call waiting. Use an answering machine instead.

56. Don’t lead men on.

57. Don’t flirt with men you’re not interested in.

58. Always leave a tip. (Oops).

59. Have a tidy appearance.

60. Keep good personal hygiene.

61. Have messy hair.

62. Recognize inconsistencies in personality for what they are. Inconsistencies. A chance to re-align your values. These do not define a person.

63. Know the value of femininity.

64. Respect your neighbors and close the windows and doors when you are getting frisky with your man. (common sense is not always so common).

65. Treat people as equals.

66. Don’t treat people as equals.

67. Make mistakes. Be obvious about it.

68. Honor your mistakes.

69. When leaving a social function, always say goodbye to everyone you spoke to.

70. Win some false friends and true enemies. And know you’ve succeeded anyway.

71. Be reasonable.

72. Be unreasonable. Reasonable people are stuck in their own limited version of reality.

73. Think carefully before you do something you regret. Instead ask yourself: “what do I REALLY, truly value in in my life?”

74. Ask yourself: “where’s the good in this?”

75. Remember, you are MORE than your behavior.

76. Accept the features you have been given, and in turn, accept other people’s features.

Now over to you. Yes You! :) So what does being a lady mean to you? What tips have you got for us? Any questions about my list? Confusions? Feel free to type away!

Renee the feminine woman

47 Comments

  • Vreneli

    Reply Reply January 21, 2014

    Renee… you are actually very often saying one thing then a few lines later saying the exact contrary

    example
    dont reveal your weight and bra size
    further down: do reveal your weight and bra size..

    maybe you should go through the list again.. it has several ones like these!!

  • Deidre Bailey

    Reply Reply January 30, 2013

    great tips.

  • SweetMarie123

    Reply Reply January 27, 2013

    I have found one rule that answers all questions…the Golden Rule of Do Unto Others…..I can apply this to almost anything in life and find the right answer.

    i.e….if you are eating for instance, do you want to hear someone announce that they need to go to the bathroom? I sure as heck don’t…lol

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply January 15, 2013

    I send my whole-hearted thanks for providing me with an article to substantiate my claim that society is too genderized. Thank you for exerting pressure of today’s women to act a certain way to be deemed attractive by the opposite sex. Societal concepts on femininity and masculinity are the reason for such competition within both sexes. Rather than advocating a strong sense of self, you’re suggesting not to “wear the same jacket as everyone else” or for women not to “carry weapons.” What constitutes a woman is subjective; maybe even based on cultural or religiously shaped morals. But this, this is just a fallacy. So thank you.

  • Sarah Taluy

    Reply Reply January 1, 2013

    I think Renee is saying that in some cases you do need to e.g.Believe you are number one… but in other cases you need to e.g. shine the light on others.

    So being a lady is being able to ascertain well that some situations will require one course of action, but in another it would be beneficial not to apply that rule and take a ‘contradictory’ course.

  • Eva

    Reply Reply December 19, 2012

    Renee, it’s funny how confused some people were about how you put “opposing” guidelines. It seems they missed the point entirely.

  • k jackson

    Reply Reply November 4, 2012

    One added way to be a lady–learn how to SPELL correctly! No, not you, Renee. Learn correct grammar, like how to use an apostrophe and other punctuation.

    • Ejiro

      Reply Reply June 17, 2013

      Great point. Especially as in these days of text messaging, so many people no longer know how to spell and it is becoming acceptable to use bad spelling. A lady should strive for excellence and this also include writing letters. E.g. getting someones name wrong, and not cross checking if it is correct. Of course your intuition would have prompted you to check, but most of the time we dont heed this promptings and yet they are life savers.

      So in addition, a Lady never ever ignores her intuition

  • Rebecca

    Reply Reply December 28, 2011

    You have contradicted yourself quite a few times in this list. For instance you tell us not to reveal that we are going to the bathroom and then a few lines down you tell us to do just what you told us not to do. I don’t mean to be rude, because I do like this list, but I was confused.

    • Iamabutterfly

      Reply Reply November 2, 2012

      She is aware of this. It is a type of irony and humor. It all depends on the situation and on what’s appropriate. Have fun with it! :)

  • deborah

    Reply Reply May 31, 2011

    That was very good and I enjoyed the great tags because it made me really believe it and I alreadyknow it’s true.

  • Victoria

    Reply Reply May 12, 2011

    I have two questions. Should a lady cry? If something should happen in public, should a lady excuse herself and cry in private, then come out smiling like everything is dandy?

    And…should a lady smoke? If she does so, is she considered trashy or glamorous?

    • love yourself

      Reply Reply May 27, 2011

      yes because sometimes you can hadle so much and deal with other people love, time and effort.
      And not understand the dirt there dealing with when you are found. It hurt not to be sad or unhappy. when you looking forward a better you and not what people say about you. Even when you goin out to be and the public share yourself and the mirror only for you. And see how you can excuse to be a lady and not a cry baby. sometimes being a cry baby and I want to know why. when Jesus died for my sins you will know your not perfect. And there’s know one holy then thou. You know thing’s are not so dandy when you cry because of Terriable mistake or for trust and it hit you and the face. A relationship with christ start with John chapter one getting to know and understand your self worth and living. A smile is better to relive for yourself and others. to say everthing is going to be alright. Stop fighting when the battles is not yours. And smoke when you need to stop pulling on them. some men and others feel better you being a lady and not a pack smoker. And it can be sicking when bullshit intertain itself. and it can be glamorous only when a real a man said for you to say so or just note. A mind is a terriable thing to waste. keeping praying

    • deborah

      Reply Reply May 31, 2011

      no and yes at the same time because its good to let it out.
      It;s going to be Alright.

  • jasmin

    Reply Reply April 26, 2011

    It is a sign of the times that the phrases “model Audrey Hepburn” and “Don’t carry weapons” appear on the same list. LOL

  • Chantel

    Reply Reply April 23, 2011

    You don’t have to be white to be a lady!! I’m with Brown eyed beauty. As for breast implants, fake nail etc i do feel that we should accept ourselves the way we are. And i find fake nails and breast implants and too much make-up really vulgar. I’m all for natural beauty. It’s underrated

    • Chantel

      Reply Reply April 24, 2011

      I correct myself… i had misintepreted the “skin white as snow” part. I do agree and i think it’s also for other races who try to lighten their complexion ending up with more or less the same result. Embrace your skin colour.

  • LL

    Reply Reply April 16, 2011

    Greetings,

    I have a question with regards to invitations and introductions.

    1) Invitation:
    I have invited two friends to an event I was organising and both told me they were already going to another event. Both offered me to join them though. That’s the first time this happens and it’s quite weird to me, as I can’t go to an event since I am already organising one at the same time. But that might be a sort of extreme politeness, anyway.

    One of the event is just round the corner from where my event is, and is due to finish later than mine. So what I did is that I said to the second friend is that I’d be happy to join later since it is round the corner. However, since I don’t know the organiser and have not been invited by her directly, it would be better if this person could send me an invitation perhaps. Therefore, I asked him to let me know, and if otherwise, said that we’d catch up another time.
    Did I do it right? If not, what would have been been right to do here?

    2) Introductions
    Introductions are really difficult to me as I don’t know how to handle these. I usually just say the names such as X this is Y and Y this is X.
    What are the rules for introduction? For instance if I introduce a man to a woman, who should be introduced to the other? If both are of the same gender, on which criterias should I introduce one to another rather than the contrary?

    Thank you very much for your help

    LL

    By the way, your page is really helpful and full of good tips, thanks!

  • Tina

    Reply Reply April 15, 2011

    It is my opinion that Ms. Sara, Ms. Brown, and Ms. Kate wrote the best responses. Honestly, I am quite disappointed with the author’s statement. A lady doesn’t carry weapons? Perhaps more women should read a few biographies of real women in history.
    Thank you to all of the ladies who responded with intelligent comments, incase other young women stumble across this topic.

  • Kate

    Reply Reply November 29, 2010

    I think a true lady will know when and where to put her own rules in place and how to act accordingly. As for don’t get fake breasts? what is that? People should be comfortable with how they look and feel, it has nothing to do with being lady. Don’t carry weapons?! a lady is always prepared no matter what the situation calls for. a lady must be able to protect herself unless she is with a gentlemen who is fit to defend both parties. Don’t get a tan? again people are allowed to change themselves accordingly to feel more comfortable in their skin, thus why we have procedures not everyone is as accepting as someone else might be. I like BrownEyedBeauty’s list better not so contradicting or restricted.

  • Kira

    Reply Reply October 8, 2010

    There was an interesting comment that I want to fit into the ideal of a lady (the text).

    “A lady treats others fairly…the way she wants to be treated.” (Brown Eyed Beauty).

    To expand on this, I would think it would mean to treat someone in a particular situation the way you’d want to be treated. If someone does you wrong, you should treat them the way you feel you’d deserve to be treated if you were the one who did the wrong. It’s easy to wish more ill-will on someone else than it is on yourself and it takes a strong person to admit when they take what someone else has done and make it into something more extreme than what it really was. Ever got that feeling that you didn’t deserve the degree of a resentment someone placed upon you, when you messed up? Everyone to some extent is guilty of being inconsiderate when things get personal, it’s something that needs to be worked on and needs to be noticed. Otherwise, you could put someone in more pain than you realize and smugness won’t be there when you realize the unnecessary pain you put someone through.

    Having high standards and respect for yourself is important, but treating someone like a disgraceful loser when they don’t always meet those expectations is harsh. Let them know how you felt about what happened, don’t let them push you around but don’t criticize them the mistake and hold them in resentment.

  • Tina Carr

    Reply Reply August 21, 2010

    and i very much enjoyed BrownEyedBeauty posting.very elegantly said.

  • Tina Carr

    Reply Reply August 21, 2010

    I believe it is a lady’s responsibility to bring order to the chaos we see in our everyday lives. Because of our unique perspective we can promote good values through example, bringing to the forefront love, showing kindness and respect for others, as well as empathy, and having a gentle nature. When you display these characteristics people notice and may want to imitate you, then it will spread from one person to the next giving birth to harmony in the world around you.

  • BrownEyedBeauty

    Reply Reply August 19, 2010

    A lady is kind and sensitive…she is able to feel empathy.

    A lady is compassionate…she cares about others.

    A lady is secure within herself…she doesn’t tear other women down.

    A lady does not gossip, criticize, or judge.

    A lady will appreciate the finer things in life, but avoid being materialistic.

    A lady is confident enough to see the beauty in other women without feeling threatened.

    A lady strives to improve herself spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally.

    A lady makes the people around her feel accepted.

    A lady is open-minded.

    A lady treats others fairly…the way she wants to be treated.

    A lady cares about physical beauty, but she is mindful of inner beauty as well.

    A lady does not smoke, drink too much, or display uncouth behavior.

    A lady dresses appropriately for every situation.

    • jasmin

      Reply Reply April 26, 2011

      EXCELLENT. Your list deals more with our inner selves. Renee’s list is more about the external qualities that signal to others immediately that we are a lady.

  • stefanie

    Reply Reply August 18, 2010

    I think that rather than following the rules of etiquette, a lady follows it’s foundations: to be lovely and considerate of the feelings of others.
    Unlike in olden days, it’s no longer offensive to have our shirt sleeves showing. In fact, we can have our arms and legs showing and nobody minds at all. Any rule can be too rigid after time…
    The combination of self-respect and respect for others is key, if you ask me!
    I think a true lady should floss!
    (because it takes self-respect to put in all that effort just to take care of our future selves)
    I think a true ladies gives – but it doesn’t count as giving if it taxes her self. She just adds to the world whenever she can – and giving to herself counts, too!

  • S

    Reply Reply July 28, 2010

    I think a lady also has to have a great sense of humor! I was watching a tv show yesterday and one of the characters threw a party at his new apartment and invited everyone from work. Most of the wives that came along with their husbands were awkward, humourless and stuck to predictable small talk. But then, this one wife who came with her husband totally stuck out to me. Her and her husband were talking close to a man who was trying to pick up a girl, and then he turned to them asking if they had anywhere better to be, to which they replied “nope!” and burst into a fit of giggles, then walked away arm in arm laughing, and the looks they gave each other were so loving. I know it was only a tv show but that stuck out to me – she seemed like such a lady, more than all the others even though her “composure” wasn’t what the rest of the wives adhered to!

  • Bridgette Marie Williams

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    Love what Sarah said about how a lady is passionate about living and loving–always doing. Two phrases entered my mind when I read that–activity within tranquility and calm within the storm. The women who I think of as being ladies have that–they always have something to do but can also step back and evaluate while under stress. I believe Nancy Reagan is credited with saying that a woman is like a tea bag–you never know how strong she really is until you put her in hot water. I would go further–not only do you have a means of measuring her strength, but also you discover the flavor of her soul. After all, it is when times become difficult that you begin to glimpse the magnificent turbulence of the female soul and the degree of discipline that is necessary for a woman to keep her wildness under wraps when wildness is not required. A lady makes that look easy–not to say that it *is* easy, only that she makes it look so.

  • sarah

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    I forgot to add that a lady also ENJOYS life. She exudes joy and love of life…she is passionate about living and loving. She is always doing.

  • sarah

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    A lady is thoughtful of others, polite, kind, and charitable at all times. You never see her gossiping or speaking negatively about anyone or any situation. A lady exudes hopefulness and gentle strength during adversity. She always encourages and edifies those around her. She is the opposite of selfishness, and she holds herself to a high moral code. A lady is the opposite of snobby, arrogant, and trendy. A lady studies etiquette, educates herself in as many academic subjects as possible through many mediums, and she strives to live a useful life…to give something back. A lady is discreet, compassionate, and lovely. She doesn’t have to wear the newest designer clothes, but she will always look neat and feminine. She is gracious in her dealings with others even in trying situations, and would never leave behind her sense of decorum. She is not stuffy in her social rules, but seeks to put others at ease and to establish the comfort of others first before herself. A lady holds true to her vows, cherishes her man, and does her very best to raise her children to be healthy, mature adults. A lady knows that life is not about her. It is about putting out positive energy and sowing goodness into the lives of everyone she meets. You are right to say that a lady isn’t always a pristine example of a perfectly lived life. I think a little bit of worldly experience is necessary because it adds depth and helps her to understand compassion. However this does not mean that a woman should parade her mistakes in the streets for all to see or that she should glory in base, undignified acts….such as casual sex with strangers as mentioned in the post about the blogger who thinks women need to sleep with many men to feel satisfied. I couldn’t help but wonder….who was taking care of her children while she was off having sexual adventures with this other man? A lady does not put her own needs before the needs of people who depend on her. She is a servant/leader with the heart of a queen and the steel of a soldier. A lady does find ways to make sure she gets enough rest and eats a nutritious diet even when she is busy with life and caring for others. I guess I could go on and on with my ideas….

    Sarah

    • Barbara

      Reply Reply December 27, 2010

      I am in agreement with most of what you wrote. Very well worded and described. Thank you.

  • Shadelle

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    Ah, clever clever.. I thought my eyes were playing tricks on me.

    I personally believe being a lady can be summed up in Proverbs 31. I believe a lady is shrewd at all times and aims to do everything with Love.

    For me, Love is key. When I evaluate my actions according to what would show the other person the light of love, I embody all that a lady is thought to be. :)

  • Renee

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    @ Clare and Lauren: very true points. Lauren, yours is simple and to the point. I love it. Clare – I loved loved your definition of a lady. Especially the part about pointing out your husband’s strengths when everyone else is talking about their husband/boyfriend’s weaknesses. Thanks for your comtribution.

    @ Sunset: that’s a very interesting point about husbands and not putting them down. I do think as well, that a woman can express her frustrations without bagging their love. :)

    @ Twinkle: Love you Twinkle. Thanks for being so lovely and for understanding my point!

    @ Bridgette Marie Williams: you will most certainly be able to enjoy further posts and discussions on this topic. It is very broad, and deserves more commentary and discussion.

    @ Karen: Thanks. It’s my pleasure, and great to have you here! :)

    @ Sachmet: yes, your translation of my point is exactly right. I laughed out loud when I read your added point: ‘laugh about yourself when you fall flat on your face’. :)

  • Sachmet

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    Very interesting post, not weird at all. A bit contradictory, yes, but so is life and not all rules/guidelines apply always and in every situation.

    I would like to add something like: “Laugh about yourself when you fall flat on your face”.

    @ Lever: I think you misinterpreted this point. Renee never said that only white women can be ladies. She wrote: “Rather your skin be as white as snow than as orange as this.” I guess this translates as something like: “Accept your skincolour as it is and do not try to alter it with artificial means as chances are good you will either look ridiculous or harm your health.”

  • Renee

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    @ Lever: People are not usually naturally orange like the colour of the girl in the picture I linked to. Unless you’ve seen otherwise.

    The point is not white is better. The point is: if a woman has to look unnaturally orange like the colour of that girl’s skin in that photo to feel better about herself then she might want to think hard about her values.

    I know it’s hard for some people to understand, but for many white women – they have been encouraged to feel that having skin as white as snow is ugly, and wrong. Very wrong.

  • Lever

    Reply Reply July 27, 2010

    Skin “white as snow?”

    Uh, NO.

    News flash and my edit: “Ladies are not limited to the white race or ethnic groups. Hardly! Ladies are as black as the night, brown as milk chocolate, red as clay in beautiful Mother Earth, tawny, tan, taupe, tapioca, and all mixtures and shades betwixt and between!”

    A lady doesn’t merely complain, she offers helpful suggestions. :o)

  • Karen

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    I like the condradictions, they made me laugh. Thought I was misreading at first and had to go back and check the previous point. Especially the one about reavealing your age, weight and bra size. This one sounds so old-fashioned, as do many of the points – they have been drummed into us as children, when rules don’t make much sense to you, and it is not until you are older and wiser (???!!!) that you realize the value of them – or wished someone had taken the time and trouble of explaining them to you.

    Much of what you write about are eternal thruths and should be passed onto the following generations, otherwise society can tend to fall apart.

    Oh, and being contradictory – isn’t that what a “woman” is supposed to be?!

    Thank you for your post Renee, your website is doing me the world of good.

  • Bridgette Marie Williams

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    Much food for thought! I think another layer to what being a lady means is dependent upon what culture a person is brought up in, and also what culture a person finds themselves living in. What a being a lady means in London will be different what what it means in Singapore, Kansas City, Rome, Paris, Calcutta, Buenos Aires, Beijing, etc. So–to behave like a lady does require a certain adaptibility to one’s surroundings. Yet, there are principles about being a lady that remain the same no matter where you go or what you’re doing. Virtues such as kindness, compassion, patience, intelligence, honesty and determination are valuable everywhere.

    Also, I believe that being lady requires the ability to show respect to diverse points of view in others without feeling compelled to adopt such views. Especially these days when people are in a constant state of uproar, polarized beyond reason, there is a need to be able to respect the right of other people to arrive at a point of view different from one’s own. That is the test of our age, I believe.

    This is such a broad topic! I hope we get to enjoy further discussion and posts on the subject!

  • twinkle

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    lET your skin be ‘white as snow’ is funny…especially if were not white LOL..Anyway, like you I’m also against many whites destroying their skin trying to get a tan though……tanning booths should be illegal.

  • sunset

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    I noticed the contradictions too… then I realised that sometimes the situation calls for being one way, and another situation calls for being exactly opposite!

    To be a true lady, beware of anger and envy. Envy will lead to anger, will make you behave in a bad way towards others, especially other women, will make you look for the negatives, backbite and say things about others that you will later regret.

    Anger makes you look ugly. People don’t want to be around people who get angry easily. It is more effective, if someone insults you, say ‘Do you really think that?’ then walk away and try to calm yourself. Most likely, they’ll be the ones running to you to apologise, instead of if you had gotten angry, you might have some apologising to do, n that is embarassing and uncomfortable.

    Don’t say anything bad about your husband to others. It may find its way back to him and cause problems between you. Or the situation might resolve itself, but others will remember the bad you told them, and look down on him because of it. When you try to defend him afterwards, they will doubt your truthfulness and see you as someone who exagerates.

  • Lauren

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    A lady doesn’t limit herself to a certain set of rules. She can adjust herself accordingly.

    She knows when and where to be unpredictable. If you’re multi-dimensional, you can avoid appearing as Ms. Prim, Proper and Boring.

  • Clare

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    For me, being a lady is about control and balance. Thinking before you speak, considering your options before you make decisions, valuing each moment and taking nothing for granted. It’s forgiving when you can’t, stepping out with elegance even when everyone else is wearing sweats and hoodies, telling someone that you appreciate just being their for you (on a regular basis). It’s about grace and elegance in every twist and turn that life brings. It’s pointing out one of your husbands strengths when your girlfriends are bagging their husbands. When the whole world is crumbling you are standing there, taking a deep breath and counting your blessings.

    Being a lady isn’t about always in heels and a shift, but it’s about retaining an ‘air of grace’ even when doing the housework, when cleaning the toilet, when sweeping the sidewalk. And no, it’s not that nose-in-the-air elegance (that’s not elegance) is the deep appreciation for who you are as a lady and treasuring and cherishing that.

    In return men will love, cherish, and adore you. You’re friends will admire you for your style and ability to keep high standards. You’re family will respect you for all you have become and the potential you have.

    And thank you Renee for this great post! I love your points!

  • Shadelle

    Reply Reply July 26, 2010

    Love your blog but many of the ones on are contradictory. for ex. 3 and 8, 37 and 40, 71 and 72, 2 and 6, 17 and 20.

    Im a bit perplexed.

    • Renee

      Reply Reply July 26, 2010

      Indeed. :)

      This is food for thought and discussion! Do you see what I’m getting at?

      • bridgette

        Reply Reply January 28, 2011

        Definitely I get it! Example: treat people as equals, don’t treat anyone as though they are beneath you- don’t treat people as equals, you wouldn’t honor a child the same way you would let’s say an elderly person who obviously deserves utmost respect. Love it!

        • Sami

          Reply Reply October 8, 2012

          okay sorry but how come u have things like dont say you have to go to th ebathroom and excuse then you put say that you ahve to go to the bathroom then excuse yourself you r really confusing me and there is alot like i am in a grade and i always get made fun of i alway sslouch even though i am 5’3 and i feel left out sometimes why dont you make an article about that
          BTW what do you do with our email address do you send the answer to us or wha t

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