Comments on: How to Open Up to Love – Learning to be Open

By: Allie

Allie — Tue, 21 May 2013 16:50:34 +0000

Last night my boyfriend of seven months started acting distant for no absolute reason.. When asking what was wrong he would keep saying nothing and nothing; everything was good. Of coarse it hurt me to see him upset and not be his usual happy self. Right before we went to sleep tears just started poring out if my eyes and I had no idea how to fix this problem… He asked if I was crying.. I lied and said no.. We were still laying there quietly , I’m crying and he is just laying there. After awhile he says.. I love you and your my everything but you have to open up to me, this is how I feel 90 percent of the time with you.. Your so distant and closed off.. I don’t feel like you trust me. I know nothing about you and yet you know everything about me, I need you to open up to me if you want this to work girl … I just sat there looking at him .. I felt like he was asking too much.. I had a horrific past and it’s hard for me to open to people.. I don’t know how to open to him.. I’ve never talked to anyone about my past… I hate people feeling sorry for me or watch me cry.. I hate feeling weak and having no control over myself. But I do love him, he’s about the only person whom I came close to loving.. It will break my heart if he leaves, please help me and tell me how to open my soul and my hart to the man I plan to spend the rest of my life with.

By: Shakyia

Shakyia — Fri, 03 May 2013 14:48:41 +0000

I have a hard time opening up and its costing me my husband. I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to love him more but i dont know sometimes. But I dont want to lose him to another woman. I need help.

By: Arabella

Arabella — Sun, 17 Feb 2013 21:42:34 +0000

I have a hard time opening up because I’ve been hurt in the past and because I would rather deal with my pain on my own. Also because I felt like I was never enough no matter what I did. In some ways, being closed off helped me learn to maintain a clear head and to be observant of certain signs. But I also saw what happened when I did stay closed off. I pushed others away, my emotions came out in ugly ways, and missed out on so many things. Most of all, it resulted in me constantly staying in my past and never moving forward.
To me, opening up means loving and living life despite your past hurts and your insecurities. You become better and stronger instead of bitter and weak. I noticed that by opening up to those who care about me despite feeling the way I did I gave them a gift. By making them feel loved and better about themselves. Giving them good times. I still have to work on this in my relationships with men though lol.

By: stephanie

stephanie — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 17:38:26 +0000

I do not know how to open up my heart, mind, body and soul or give it to a man. I want to open up but he wants to be so controlling

By: Sally

Sally — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:12:46 +0000

I shut down because I don’t want to be a burden to others especially my man because I care deeply about him. I’m a happy optimistic person who loves to see people smile even when I’m not all that happy. That’s why I close off when I’m upset and when he catches me upset, I pretend like nothings wrong because I don’t want to make him sad or worry. Now I know that by doing that, I am only pushing away my rock… I should have just let it out and show him that I am sad/upset and let him comfort me… I wonder whether or not it’s too late to open up to him when that incident as already happen? How can I open up to him more now? Do I admit to him that I want him here, that I am vulnerable, that I want to open to him??

By: Kira

Kira — Tue, 15 Jan 2013 04:59:33 +0000

The reason I shut down is because I’m afraid. I’m afraid that they’ll want too much. Want much more from me than I can give. And when somebody wants something, I feel pain, gut-wrenching pain and I feel like it’s going to tear me apart to give it to them and so I run. And then because of that, I feel unworthy of such a thing. And I don’t know how to turn this around.

By: Flower

Flower — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 00:58:33 +0000

Wow, Marilyn, i really feel you. I have the same problem, and i really recently and slowly started learning that my really intense and passionate feelings are ok and i shouldn’t be ashamed of them. The hardest i guess is that i feel so cheesy and corny. But what i feel, i guess i’m realizing, is a special gift, not a burden.
Anyway your comment really got to me so i and i appreciate it.

By: Samee

Samee — Fri, 03 Aug 2012 03:43:47 +0000

I wonder what ‘s “open up” in Reeny’s terms too. Please explain more clear.

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 16:52:09 +0000

Hi Renee, I enjoy reading your advice and I’m in the same state of confusion as Roxanne Wolfe who posted previously. I’ve always wondered exactly what does it mean to “open up”? Is it just sharing your feelings and showing trust? I see it in dating advice all the time and I’m not sure if I’m opening up when I date or not. Examples defining opening up without using the word “open” would help.

Thanks!

Rochelle

By: Simi

Simi — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 05:18:18 +0000

The first song was beautiful, I see how you can find it opening, I felt it too. The name “Returning to Innocence” reminds me of children. A women’s openness is like a child’s openness to life? ^.^ also I’d like to ask from other articles–how does a woman be confident of herself and vulnerable…we’re all vulnerable Does it mean emotionally expressive and freedom to “feel” without shame? You’re so beautiful! And I love all your articles.
-Sincerely,
Simi
Xoxo