A Word of Warning About The Birth Control Pill

A Word of Warning About The Birth Control Pill

60 million women in America and Europe take oral contraceptives. In my opinion, this is a tragedy.

Let me explain why.

The birth control pill: one of the biggest threats to your Femininity, your health, your relationship, your ability to attract the man of your dreams, and probably one of the major causes for any health problem you currently have in your life (if you are taking the birth control pill).

I’m also going to tell you that the birth control pill can really mess up your ability to choose the right man, it can cloud your judgment when it comes to knowing whether you are with the right man, and it can cause relationship breakdown. Yes, really.

If you don’t have the time to digest the information in this article, I’m going to simply tell you this: Start using alternative contraception methods (if you are on the pill).

(Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)

The deadly side effects of the birth control pill

Now let’s get in to specifics. The pill is a dangerous drug. One of the biggest guarantees of you getting in touch with your femininity, your sexuality and your sensuality, is your hormones. And the birth control pill exposes women to synthetic hormones.

It is very unhealthy for a woman to be exposed to synthetic hormones. In fact, long-term use of this drug can cause women to develop serious chronic illness. The birth control pill depletes a woman’s body of important nutrients, can cause the thinning of your bones, increases your risk of developing breast cancer (any type of cancer really) and blood clots.

Aside from these side effects, the birth control pill can also cause these side effects:

  • Increased risk of breast and cervical cancers
  • Increased risk of blood clotting, heart attack and stroke
  • Migraines
  • Gall bladder disease
  • Increased blood pressure
  • Weight gain
  • Mood changes
  • Nausea
  • Irregular bleeding or spotting
  • Benign liver tumors
  • Breast tenderness
  • Yeast overgrowth and infection

See more on the deadly side effects of the birth control pill. A good article on Dr. Mercola’s Natural Health website.

How the pill can effect your choice in partner

For many women on this website, they are looking to get in touch with their femininity, join a new sisterhood, and improve their relationships. Many women also want to find the right man – but if you are on the birth control pill, it could very likely be damaging your ability to choose the RIGHT man. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)

If you do not believe me, please take a look at Dr. Mercola’s article on this topic. He owns and operates the most visited natural health site on the planet:

How Contraceptive Pill Influences Partner Choice – a must-read for any woman looking to understand health and her relationships more.

Researchers have discovered a ‘secret sex nerve’ that controls who we are attracted to. This olfactory nerve may be the nerve through which pheromones are processed. We are naturally more attracted to people whose scent is genetically dissimilar to our own. With the exception for pregnant women.

Pregnant women tend to be attracted to people with a similar scent. Hormonal contraceptives fool a woman’s body in to thinking she is pregnant. This is one reason why taking the pill can sometimes cause you to stop being attracted to your partner, if you were once attracted to him!

The effect of the pill on your sex drive

Most of you may already know that taking the birth control pill can (in some cases) permanently damage a woman’s sex drive.

As I have discussed before, the only difference between a relationship and a friendship is intimacy. And if your sex drive is low, non-existent, and causing your hormones to go out-of-whack, your relationship is going to suffer. To learn more about why sex is important in a relationship, please see my article on ‘5 Reasons Why Women Shouldn’t Deprive Their Man of Sex’.

Most women do report some sort of change in their sex drive when they are on the pill.

Reasons why women take the pill

Granted, there are many women who start taking the birth control pill for reasons other than contraception (I am one of those women). Some women take it for treatment of irregular menstrual cycles, irregular bleeding, endometriosis, acne or cysts.

As is true with any drug, taking the pill is not treating the underlying causes of the problem. In some cases, medication is necessary. But most of us use drugs to change our biochemistry. This is unnecessary.

You can change your biochemistry by changing your ‘state’, by moving your body. Something that is out of the scope of this article.

Do you take the birth control pill for contraception?

If you take the birth control pill for contraception, and are wondering what you would do if you didn’t take the pill, there are alternatives. Less convenient, yes, but potentially more beneficial for your health. And I’m not talking about other, injectable birth control. Because this can be dangerous too. See Dr. Mercola’s article on: Major Warnings on Injectable Birth Control

Yes, research has shown that the pill may causes less risk of SOME cancers, but can in-turn cause a higher risk for others. What’s the point?

The pill puts unnecessarily large amounts of estrogen in a woman’s body. Hormones are such a crucial part of your overall health, and most people are conditioned to reach for a drug to ‘fix’ their problem. There are other contraception methods that will work, and can be just as effective. See this article:

Natural Birth Control Just As Effective, Much Safer Than Hormones

How Oral Contraceptives can Harm Your Baby

3% of women who take oral contraceptives become pregnant without knowing it. This means that women are also subjecting/exposing their baby to drugs for several months in to the pregnancy. Needless to say, this poses a risk to not only the mother’s health, but to the baby’s as well.

Please see this article: How Oral Contraceptives Hurt Your Baby to find out more on this topic.

Stories from my own life

I have known many women who DO take the birth control pill. And every single one of them has had negative side effects. Some more serious than others. Personally, I went to a dermatologist when I was 15 with severe acne problems. No drug worked. So the dermatologist reluctantly put me on the birth control pill, which worked pretty rapidly.

I was happy, my family was happy (they wanted me to be rid of my acne).

Stupidly, I became reliant on the birth control pill to keep my skin clear. I wish I hadn’t. Whilst on it, I had all sorts of severe health problems that doctor’s could not detect the cause of (not that medical science can detect everything anyway). I was unfortunately uninformed about the pill, and at such a young age – I just took the dermatologist’s advice. I assumed it was normal to take the pill for acne, as several of my friends did exactly the same thing.

One problem is that over the years, there has been a severe lack of available information to women about the birth control (GOOD information and warnings, especially).

Like many other things in our society, the contraceptive pill is a quick-fix. And it’s not even a fix. It’s meant to help you enjoy sex without getting pregnant, but with the damage it does to a woman’s libido (sometimes permanently), it actually works against its own claims.

When I came off of it (thanks for Dr. Mercola’s very passionate warnings), I don’t think there was a single symptom under the sun that I DIDN’T have. Including heart palpitations, hair falling out in what it seemed like chunks for 6 months straight, migraines, rashes, loss of feeling in my legs and right arm (for the duration of a couple of hours), nausea, vertigo – I could go on forever really.

To put it simply, my experience with the pill has been bad. And even a whole year wasn’t long enough for my body to normalize itself.

I have a friend who has waited 9 months to get her period back. This is considered ‘normal’ in the medical world (it can take up to a year) – but no feminine woman wants to wait nearly a whole year to just GET her period again, does she? And then wait another year or so for it to normalize?! As it turns out, my friend also has a cyst on her ovaries.

This lady had a heart-attack because of the birth control pill: the pill gave me a heart attack and she has another group: my birth control pill gave me a heart attack

I might also add that I have known several women who skip the ‘sugar pill’ section of the pill cycle. A fantastic way to do even MORE damage to your body. By the way, if you DO decide to get off the pill, wait until you are in the sugar pill section to get off of it. 🙂

Our body is our temple. Take care of it. Nurture it. And if you have any girlfriends still on the pill, please forward this article to them. Every woman needs to hear it.

Yes – for some women, they seem to experience no side effects. Are you one of these women?

On another topic, I know that you’re wondering what naturally attracts men… click here to learn about the 17 Attraction Triggers.

Have you ever been on the pill? Did you experience any negative side-effects? Have your friends had any bad side effects? please let us know in the comments section so that we can learn from each other. Thanks! 🙂


  • Emily

    I am on one that you only have your period once every 3 months. i’m constantly achy, my hair wont grow, im bummed out a lot, no sex drive, always tired, spotting a lot, achy even in my calves..anyone have this?! email me at emilysue04@yahoo.com please!!!

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  • Tink

    This was the worst article I have ever read….zero scientific research to back up a single claim. This is my 3rd time on the pill and I have NEVER had a bad experience. I have a stronger libido than most MEN I know, and the pill has NEVER made me want sex less. On top of it, I have polycystic ovarian disease which has NO CURE and can only be controlled with the pill. Please stop spreading weird information that is a mix of speculations and conspiracy theories.

    • Xanthia Gonzales

      I was on tri cyclen lo for 6-7 years and had no problems…I got bad with taking the pill and kept missing so had to keep starting new packs then just stopped for awhile. It didn’t seem to work after stopping and starting again so I’ve been switching BC for 2 years now. I’ve had all the issues she mentions in the article and if you look it up on the internet there are many studies done on what she talks about.

  • Samm Creech

    this is a load of garbage you have absolutely no sources for your info and your ‘deadly side effects list’ are symtoms people can get with any medication. i take the pill because i have extremely unbareable cramps that cause me to vomit and faint. there is nothing that has helped with this other than the birth control pill. your claims are basless and this artical is trash. also not all women care about finding a man. idk why that is an important part of this article but many women who are lesbians or just uninterested in sex in general take the pill for health issues. please talk to your obgyn so you can get the facts

    • Shari Peterson

      Angry much? She didn’t say these same symptoms are only found with pill use, she said the pill has a list of potential side effects, here they are. Many are shared with other chemical crap pharmaceuticals. Don’t call someone a liar because you don’t like what they are telling you. You seriously think taking artificial hormones is safe?

    • Teodora Anca

      Fuck you … just because birth control helps you, it does not mean that it does not do harm to other women. I can confirm this shit. SO NO, THIS IS NOT GARBAGE. Lots of women experience really bad side effects.

      • L. Wolonsky

        “Fuck you” simply because she stated her opinion? Wow, you really need help, lady.

  • Stephanie Turka

    Thank you for this article! I was on the same birth control pill for 7 years, then just this March switched to another pill because the cost of the one I’d been on had went up and insurance didn’t cover it. I failed to realize that these two pills had completely different amounts/types of hormones in them because I’d asked the gyno specifically if there was a generic version of the same thing I’d been taking. Well switching was a big mistake! I instantly developed TERRIBLE anxiety, burning headaches, and a ruptured ovarian cyst. My experience was so bad that I decided to quit hormonal birth control altogether; I can’t believe what I was putting in my body for so long and I just want to make myself balanced and clean again naturally! Ugh! Now I have a few weird symptoms going off this first month, like breast tenderness and my legs feeling tingly and weird (I’m assuming from the change in hormones?) but I won’t ever go back to the pill. Funny thing is, my original gyno acted like there were no risks involved with the pill at all, and since I was younger then I just didn’t question anything. Granted, I never had problems with my first pill to my knowledge – but sometimes I wonder if I really did, but had just gotten so used to them and that I considered them “normal!”

    • Dee-sperate for hope

      Hi , just wondering if you recovered. I too experience the tingling etc after quitting. So scary.

  • Chris Lacagnina

    Thank you SO MUCH for this article!! I was on the pill for several years (tried a couple of different kinds because of guess what…bad side effects!!), and it was horrible how much it changed me! My emotions were all over the place, and looking back- my taste in men was SO off! (I ended up dating a bunch of whiny, super feminine guys if I’m being completely honest!) I think I can attribute a period of complete disinterest in men entirely to awful BC. It took my body well over a year to normalize once I stopped it, as well. (I also tried an IUD, which was even more horrible…) Now that I’ve been completely off BC for a couple of years, I finally am attracted to masculine men, and I feel like a sane, happy person again! Again thank you SO MUCH this message NEEDS to get out to ALL women!!

    • Shari Peterson

      Gulp…yep. I am married now for 12 years, with him for 15 years and he’s a super feminine man (but he is not gay in any way for sure, loves sex). I met him while I was on the pill, which I got off after 32 YEARS. I essentially hadn’t met a single man in my adult life when not on the pill.

      Things were fine in my marriage (with the exception of me being the reign holder and dominant figure/bread winner and a bit tired of that!) until the pill started messing with my endocrine system so I finally got off it nine months ago. WOW. 🙁 where did the attraction to my husband go?

      What is really, really amazing is after 32 YEARS of birth control pills, I got my period on schedule. Each month, every month, now going on nine months. It appears that the pill – possibly one of the longest cases of someone being on it – has not wrecked me bad as I was certain would happen based on everything I read. One month I had two periods, in July, but that’s it, otherwise it’s been like clockwork and no interruption or delay like everyone else has mentioned.

      I now cry at the drop of a hat and cry for things that are seemingly not cry worthy. My emotions are new to me, when you’re on the pill you don’t have them nearly as intense, or at least I didn’t.

      I am now attracted to entirely different men and much younger (I have fallen hard for 35 year old in the office). I am 48 years old. AND NOW not being on the pill, I want children!!! Man this is so messed up.

  • Jessica

    I got on the pill when I was 18. The pill I used was Ortho Tricyclen. I didn’t have any problems with this brand of pill. I only used it for contraception. I stopped taking the pill after the final pack was gone. That was 13 years ago. I still haven’t had any problems after stopping the pill. Every woman’s body is different and so is every brand of the pill.

    • Shari Peterson

      I think the new formulations and the new types of hormones are deadly. The older ones like Ortho tricyclen which is what I was on for 32 years (!), 7-7-7, are far, far safer. But you know they aren’t on patent anymore so they create new ones to make more $$.

      I too stopped this pill in December 2015 and have had no problems. Well except no longer being attracted to my husband. 🙁

  • Jamie

    I took the pill too, and each and every time I did, I would gain weight like clockwork. I am in an LDR and whenever my fiance (We’re getting married soon, yippee!) would come over, I know I have to be on the pill to prevent any oopsies. Well, I was safe from pregnancy, that’s for sure… but my body suffered tremendously. I remember being a nice, slender 120-125 pounds at 5’4-5’5, and at my highest before indulging the birth control pills, I was maybe around 135 due to me being lazy. But when I went on the birth control… holy moly… even when I wasn’t eating as much, I still gained a truck full of weight. Went from a healthy 135 to nearly 170. Went up several dress sizes up too. It even gave me a horrible yeast infection that wouldn’t go away until a doctor prescribed hardcore antibiotics. I wish I was kidding, but even after I stopped the pills, my body is still messed up. It will take many months, maybe even years, until I go down a normal weight. Luckily I’m thinking of doing a detox to get rid of all the backed up crap in my system, and with diet + exercise, I should be good in a few months. 🙂 Moral of the story: Be careful what you put in your mouth!

  • Charlie

    Okay I’m 17 and started the pill 2 weeks ago ivd been having really sore belly aches and I’ve had my period for over 2 weeks now and they are massive clots all the time I’m going to go off it but is that okay ?

    • Shari Peterson

      Charlie ask your doctor about one of the older pills like ortho tricyclen. They are far, FAR safer. They don’t push them because they are all off patent so not as much $$ but they are better for you.

  • Chelsea

    Been on bc pill for 7 months. Recently started becoming dizzy sick and crankier than ever! I’m not pregnant but I really believe my birth control is causing me to feel sick and panicky all of the time. After this month I’m so done with it.


    I took the pill for about 3 years total. In the first year I gained 100 lbs and the doctor tried 3 different pills to lower dosage each time. A male doctor put me on a high dose to start because I am 6 ft tall. I thought I was dying. I threw up everything, my body hurt all the time and all I could do was sleep. I suffered debilitating mood swings that took me very low to homicidal and suicidal and then up to manic. This is not like me. I cried every day. I stayed in a terrible relationship until I got off of the pill for a brief while woke up and left. I went back on the pill for about a year with my husband and I went through the same thing. I have been off of them almost 2 years now and only have a period every other month. I am no longer emotional, but my body is damaged and I have asthma now along with several vitamin deficiencies I am trying to correct. I am 100 lbs heavier than I want to be, and I have only ever eaten about 1600 cal a day. My arms still go numb sometimes and I get dizzy if I stand too fast but I am better than I was and I hope the longer I am off of them the better I will get.

    • Shari Peterson

      Modern pills are very dangerous. The older ones like Ortho Novum 7-7-7 for instance are not nearly as bad. TBH I loved it when I was on it for decades (literally, over three decades). I didn’t have a period, I didn’t have any emotional roller coasters. Nothing bad until about 1.5 years ago my metabolism just closed up shop and shut down – I have been someone who works out since the age of 21 so it freaked me out. After exhausting all attempts to kick start it, I finally quit the pill in December 2015 to get those synthetic hormones out of my body and start the healing process. By May my metabolism was back with a roar, along with…my attraction to men not my husband!!

  • Hannah

    Also none of the above is new information. All available on contraceptive leaflets and pretty well known. And if you don’t know it – do your research.

  • Hannah

    All very good but you have no evidence to back this up, no refs throughout the article so just speculation and not credible which is a shame if there is any truth to it.

    • Shari Peterson

      Hannah have you heard of this thing called the Internet? It’s like this huge free library where you can find all you need. The best part is, you don’t have to rely on anyone else to do your legwork for you. It’s really cool, you should check it out.

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  • kaye

    After my youngest daughter was born I decided I could not afford any more children considering I was taking care of two children by myself with no financial help from either one of their biological fathers of which I refer to assperm donors. I went to the doctor and ask for some birth control pills. for years I seem to have no problems I did experience for your loss but did not attribute that to the birth control pills. it also took me years to figure out that I was losing hair I was very busy between working full time and going to school full time taking care of two children who were both four years apart had lots of school activities taking care of the household xcetera. when I did finally figure out that I was having up hair loss problem I went to my doctor who referred me to a dermatologist who sent me home with a box of rogaine not once but twice. I was so busy that I left alone for a long time. at one point I began to question it again and I saw a commercial on the TV for a hair loss company. with no money to pursue the cause of my hair loss three doctors I made an appointment with the company for a free consultation they proceeded to ask me if I was on any medicine for which I was not. I went home and began to think about it I am formed them that the only thing I was on was the birth control pills. the gentleman in for me to check the side effects of the birth control pills. when I did I found out that that was a side effect. after 15 years of taking the birth control pills I stopped it. my hair loss did not stop but it did slow down. now 23 years after starting birth control pills at eight years after stopping birth control pills I began to have cramping and blood clots during my period although I did not have cramping all the time. I understand that all the years that I have had my period I never once had PMS cramping or any other I only knew I was on my period when I went to the bathroom and have blood. now I was experiencing cramping and noticing large blood clot I noticed on the I noticed at times when I had the cramping was when I had the blood clots and I have a tampon in so when that happened I would wear pad. 3 years that went on. now 8 years after stopping birth control pills I began my. and bled for a month straight. being unemployed and no money I sought out at Dr I paid my position but he sent me to a gynecologist the gynecologist did a biopsy which was very expensive of which I now have a very large bill that I cannot afford to pay. this biopsy showed that I had a condition called hyperplasia. in this condition your uterus has a buildup of tissue in the lining of the uterus and so your body does not know when to bleed and when not to. I also found out through my own research that this condition is associated with high estrogen levels and low progesterone levels. low progesterone can cause hair loss. now I am NOT a medical doctor but I do know my own body I believe that taking the birth control pills for all them years altered my own natural hormone levels permanently and cause this condition that I now have. I am on my second month of taking a drug called Provera which is a synthetic form of the hormone progesterone this Provera I will have to take for the next 6 months. my belief is that the birth control pills altered my own natural hormone levels causing the hair loss and eventually leading to this hyperplasia. my hope is that this drug Provera that I am taking will eventually raise my progesterone level allowing my hair loss to stop and also allowing me to return to normal periods. I never question the NE side effects of the birth control pills that I was taking that never even entered my mind for became a consideration. knowledge is power ladies arm yourself with power before you do anything or put anything for it into your body’s

    • Shari Peterson

      So you are taking another synthetic hormone to reverse the effects of a synthetic hormone? Wow.

  • Holly

    Thankyou so much for sharing this information Renee 🙂

    I’ve never really been on the pill, only I took it for a little bit, on off. Reason being I’m not the most consistent person on this planet.

    However, I didn’t notice any complaints but I did take it to regulate my period which seemed to help until I stopped due to just not taking it since.

    That’s how I feel! When I don’t come on regular really annyed so not having one for nine months would be deverstating.

    I didn’t know it could be taken for acne though or I would have gone straight onto in my early twenties when the bad spots on my cheeks turned out to be acne.

    I’m really glad you brought that up also as I concerned myself that I had to much testosterone in my body as acne is made by the androgen hormone or something but I got my hormones tested at the doctors and they were fine and I know that your very feminine so it’s just proved to myself that other factors can cause acne.

    I swear that I don’t go a day without getting a spot! Like my face will be nearly clear and then I’ll wake up with a new spot.

    They go and then a new one will come and although the problem is small, it’s just consistent.

    I’m back on spot tablets now and my doctor has prescribed an even better spot cream which is like thank god, if I didn’t have that cream then it would look bad.

    By the way, your skin looks amazing Renee :-),your like a human flower, beautiful!

    I did read that also how it makes people attracted the oposite of who their really attracted to but extra grateful for a different veiw poitn on this

  • Anna

    My boyfriend wants me to get on the pill. He’s stopped buying condoms, I wonder if its for that reason. I don’t want to get on the pill & I don’t know what to do. I love the feeling of bare skin too but I don’t know what to do. Can somebody please help? What other non hormonal bc is there?

    • Anna

      So I ended up solving my problem. I told him why I didn’t want to go on the pill – because I wanted our love & attraction to be real & not synthetic, & I didn’t want to lose attraction for him – & I quoted some information from this article. He ended up hugging me closely and saying he didn’t want me to go on the pill either. I guess I explained it in a way that got through to him.

    • Riv

      Hey Anna 🙂

      Really late, and I don’t know if you’ve figured it out yet, but my man and I just use the rhythm method and pull out. It has worked, especially since my man is like a bloodhound for my hormonal phases, and knows better than I do sometimes when I’m going to ovulate (what?!), lol

      I tried a copper IUD for a week, and experienced horrible side effects, even though it isn’t supposed to have any. When I got it out, my nurse practitioner looked at me like I was nuts, but I know my body. Look up copper toxicity related to the copper IUD. Sadly, we ladies don’t have access to much of anything that won’t mess us up.

      • Anna

        Hey Riv, thanks for the response. My man would have no clue about my cycles & neither would I. Our solution is just to use condoms until I hit menopause. Haha, it’s all good. Maybe one day before I hit menopause it might be willing to have a kid, then we’d go all out but that’s not happening anytime soon.

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  • nikir

    The pill ( novynette) TOTALLY flat-lined my sex drive. I realized this after just a few days of taking them. Besides that, I had absolutely no energy and i was cranky all the time. I overreacted to every situation and even found myself crying for no reason at all. I’m normally a very emotionally balanced person and my erratic behavior was such a shock to my friends that they met behind my back to discuss what on earth was going on with me. I also had a severe case of dry mouth and i was so nauseous all the time that I couldn’t eat properly, especially in the evenings and even the scent of my shower gel made me want to throw up. Word to the wise: use a condom or some other method…

    • Denia

      I have been on Novynette for four and a half years now and i am totally experiencing the same problem. Absolutely no sex drive and sex sometimes seems like a chore that is when i do get around to giving in. Always irritable especially day 14 to 21 of my cycle. I must say it is a very frustrating experience which is too much for my husband to understand or even unfair to him for me to even want him to understand. Unfortunately i am fedup and may really look into another method. 🙁

  • Kelly

    I had to quit the pill, after just 2 months it basically turned me into a monster, I even broke up with my boyfriend because all of sudden I couldn’t stand him anymore. I had no sex drive at all, my calves lower legs were hurting to the point that I couldn’t walk without pain, I was feeling constant nauseous, tired, with headaches, night sweats, bloating, chest pain, breathing problems, tingling numbness in hands, mood swings (feeling synical, being really mean to everyone or apathetic, relapsing into depression). A little over a week after i quit the leg pain miraculously stopped, no more headaches or nausea, no night sweats, I feel my sex drive is getting back and I’m devastated because I treated so bad my boyfriend when it wasn’t his fault, I could say that I was temporarily insane so this is my experience with the pill. It didn’t work for me but my friend feels great on the same brand, she had none of these symptoms.

    • ariel

      what was the brand if you dont mind me asking?

    • Shari Peterson

      To anyone reading this, avoid the newer pills that the docs push (because they get kick backs because these new pills are under patent unlike the old ones), they are dangerous. The older ones are far safer. I used Ortho Novum 7-7-7 for 32 YEARS. No health problems that I am aware of and I fortunately started bleeding normally from the first month, it’s been nine months since I’ve been off it.