I don't normally like to call them 'hobbies', but rather, passions. Hobbies sort of seem like the things you do just to pass the time. Passions sound a lot more interesting. But, hobbies, passions, interests - whatever you like to call them; they're extremely important in a woman's life!
Modern life is all about the BOX, isn't it? We go to work, work in our box-shaped office, talk on our box-like phone, type on a box, eat out of a box, text message in a box, drive a box car, use a box remote, sit on the couch and watch a box, and basically, LIVE IN A BOX!
Some of us women need to get some more empowering and healthier hobbies. It's important to keep your mind and body constantly growing - if you're not growing, you're dying!
And we live very closed lives. Nowadays it's all about which television show you've watched, or which video was hot on youtube - or who has better photos on Facebook. (Click here to take the quiz on "How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?")
Not to mention that for most young women, they no longer talk about what their greatest passion and interest is; what they're doing to add to other people's lives or what they're doing to challenge themselves, it's more about how drunk you got on Friday or Saturday night.
There are much healthier ways for a woman to spend her time - and there's nothing wrong with having a good time, and having a drink (as long as it's not to excess) but there IS something wrong when you feel you need to drink something, sniff something, inject something, swallow something, or smoke something in order to get yourself into a good mood.
So let's take a look at some fabulous hobbies for women that will make us feel more like a woman, make us more interesting and charismatic, and more importantly - challenge you to get out of your comfort zone!
When I say 'hobbies for women - I'm referring to anything really (this doesn't mean men can't do the things I've listed!!) - but mainly things I think will make you feel more like a woman, and bring out the feminine side of you.
Cooking is a wonderful womanly hobby and art that you can enjoy with your girlfriends, aunties, cousins, mum, grandma, etc. Experiment with making pretty cupcakes or cookies even. Much most importantly, it's great if you can learn to cook very healthy and nutritious meals for your friends/family/boyfriend.
2. Ballroom Dancing
This is something more traditional, but what a great way to meet some gentlemen if you're single! Ballroom dancing is a fantastic way to improve your posture and increase poise and grace. It's very lady-like, so any of you traditional ladies out there who love to do classy things - this is a hobby for you!
If you're in a relationship or married - you could even go with your husband or boyfriend - doing new things together will bring you a deeper sense of attraction and connection and you'll have more fun, and grow together.
Most cities have a ballroom dancing studio, so jump on to google and search for one nearest to you! Sometimes you can get your first lesson for Free to get a feel of what the instructor is like and to work out whether it is really something for you or not.
If you love music, perhaps you could even take some singing lessons?
However, if you don't have the money for it - just start singing at home or in the car. It makes you more cheerful and an absolute delight to be around!
Most men ADORE a soft, feminine voice, especially when it's singing in his ear! Singing is most definitely a feminine hobby. In fact, your feminine high pitched voice is one of the 17 Attraction Triggers that I write about.
There's nothing quite like a woman who can sing - the feminine is all about life, and hobbies like dancing and singing can bring the feminine energy in to full force.
If you are already a runner, or if you run regularly, you know how therapeutic running can be. Running is a great way to escape in to your own world, and to be left alone, if that's what you like. I run a lot because I like to be by myself and feel free.
If you find running hard - and you're not 'motivated', take BABY STEPS. Start by running to the end of the street and back. And then increase by 100m the next day, and so on.
People start and discontinue things like running because they expect too much from themselves from the beginning, and it feels like too much. But if you start small, and slowly INCREASE the mileage - you feel a special thing called 'progress', and progress is what really makes us happy. (Click here to take the quiz on "How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?")
Remember progress is the most important thing. Don't settle for 'I'm not a good runner.' Unless you have low standards for yourself. Running is a wonderful hobby or passion to have - cherish it!
5. Horse riding
Horse-back riding can bring you closer to nature, and it's something you can do alone or with your friends, family or your man. It's a great way to spend a regular weekend away and not to mention horses are beautiful creatures!
If you don't have the time or money to own a horse (which is an enormous responsibility), there are plenty of places around for trail-riding or even beach rides or rides for couples. If you've never done this before, it can be a great new way to challenge yourself.
Curling up with a good book is always nice! But reading (non-fiction) really helps to broaden the mind and make you more interesting in conversation. Fiction books are great, too. Reading can really improve your writing skills, if you are into writing. Reading also allows you to connect with, and get inside the minds of great women and men throughout history.
The only thing you need to be careful of is to not get too over-involved with a fiction book if it hasn't got a very positive message. All women need to have a touch of melancholy to them as well, but if you get over-involved in a book that's full of negativity, it could dampen your mood a little too much.
If you have access to a library card, you can read nearly any book you want without burning a hole in your pocket. And certainly don't forget eBay as a potential source for great, cheap books!
7. Learning a Foreign Language
Women are great at connecting with other human beings - but sometimes, when there's a language barrier, this can be hard. So if you plan to visit any new country long-term, or just plain want to become bilingual or trilingual, why not learn a new language?
You know how people tell you that you learn languages best when you're a child? Well, that was bollocks, wasn't it!? Famous author of 'The Four Hour Work Week', Timothy Ferris, will show you how you can absolutely, without a doubt, learn a foreign language in 3 months (I've heard of adults doing it in less time).
Having already done this himself, Tim is a very dynamic human being who finds new ways to accomplish things in crazily small time-frames!
Writing is definitely a womanly hobby. Blogging is a wonderful way to express yourself and to share your knowledge and passion with other people. You can 'meet' people from all over the world through a blog, and form great online (and perhaps face-to-face in future) friendships this way!
Alternatively, you could use your blog to update your family, friends and colleagues about your life. It's a great tool to use whilst traveling or when you're away from your loved ones. Parents love to read their kids blogs (perhaps there are exceptions).
Just be mindful of the things you DO say, as you might end up losing your job over your blog like Heather Armstrong did over at DOOCE. All-in-all, blogging is a great hobby/passion for women - and you can even co-write a blog with a friend, and just ramble, if you want.
Sparkly, glittery and shiny things are always a delight for women. What a great way to express your femininity! It also makes men more attracted and drawn to you.
Not only that, but you can give away the jewelry you make as gifts for others! It's a very personal gift, since it would be made by you. It's a great way to give memorable gifts and it also shows your creativity and allows you to express your creativity.
Femininity is all about color; so why not make some colorful jewelry that you can wear? You can also take classes on jewelry making, and you may find that jewelry making can earn you money whilst expressing your feminine creativity.
Candle-making isn't too complicated; you can purchase candle-making supplies from different arts and crafts stores to aid you in starting this hobby. This is a great way to create a sensual and loving mood using your own candles, made the way you want! Not only are candles romantic, but you'll seem all that more fascinating, creative and feminine in a man's eyes when you tell him that you've made the candles in your house!
You can also making candles with different shapes and scents. What a great idea!
If you've ever seen a belly dancer, you'll know just how womanly she looks! What an amazing hobby for women. It accentuates all your curves, and can help to bring you closer to your inner goddess. The goddess is an integral part of the feminine sexual energy. And, belly dancing is a fabulous way to increase feminine radiance and beauty.
Not to mention that this feminine art often enchants and captivates men. Most cities have places where you can learn belly dancing. Just give them a call and perhaps do a trial class if you can, to see if you like it. Better still, go with a friend. If you really enjoy and get good at it, you can even become a performer! (Click here to learn to unleash your goddess from within, download the "Goddess Report")
A fantastic way to unleash your creative side, painting can give you a lot of self-satisfaction, and paintings will last a lifetime. You can put them up around the house. A lot of women refuse to get artistic on art because they think they'll never be good at it, or that they'll never be able to be wonderful painters/drawers.
This is untrue. Classes with a great teacher can really help you improve your painting and drawing skills.
Drawing as a hobby will cost a lot less than painting will. You can get yourself some art pencils and a notebook and draw or even doodle in your free time. Art stores, hobby stores and even private tutors can provide art and painting classes.
If that costs too much for you, you could even get a hold of some cheap lessons from a 'how to' video on youtube.
13. Toastmasters/Public Speaking
Being the number one fear of all humans, if you can conquer this one you are sure on your way to being a very confident woman.
You may be wondering how on earth you would get started in this, and what you would talk about! Well, thankfully there is an international non-profit organization called 'toastmasters' which is usually available in 106 countries. Basically, whoever wants to go can go and improve their public speaking skills. You can talk about anything you want to talk about, and it can be an impromptu speech, or a speech prepared already by you. If you're particularly passionate about a subject, why not give public speaking a go? It's likely that you may find a toastmasters meet-up group near you!
Public speaking is a great hobby for women who want to increase their influence and to get their message out! At toastmasters, you will get honest feedback from like-minded members.
For a little more background information on public speaking, and how to prepare, please see the famous Tim Ferriss' article on how he prepares for public speaking.
Enjoyed by women such as Madonna, Meg Ryan and Gwyneth Paltrow, yoga is a great way to increase your flexibility, longevity, core strength and to improve your fitness. If you have a gym near you, they may have yoga classes.
Focusing heavily on your breathing, yoga is an amazing way to increase radiance, and get rid of toxins in your body. We all think of our diet - but breathing is just as important as good food is to our health. Most of us don't realize exactly how much we don't breathe enough!
Deep breathing is vital to your health. Yoga will help you do this. What a great way to increase feminine beauty and health - breath is life!
15. Lap Dancing/Striptease
Lap dancing? LAP DANCING?!! The kind of thing strippers do? Yes, Lap dancing. Far from being s****y and tasteless, lap dancing (or erotic dancing/striptease) when done ONLY for your man can do amazing things for your your sex life and it is a very feminine thing, too.
Lap dancing is fun because you can include a whole lot of different props and feathers, hats, sexy outfits, costumes and your favorite music! It will CERTAINLY get your man's attention!
Your man will think he's died and gone to heaven, and what a great way to bring out your inner diva. Not to mention - lap dancing is PLAYFUL! You can get lap dancing classes at pole dance studios or any erotic dance studio.
Still unsure? why not watch Salma Hayek get her sexy erotic dance moves on?
Knitting is really quite a traditionally feminine hobby (although it is still enjoyed by men around the world). Although some may think it's old-fashioned, knitting is a great creative outlet for women, and it's great to feel the self-satisfaction when you know the knitted garment is made by you!
You can knit for your friends, children, husband, boyfriend....anyone!
If you wanting free knitting patterns and more information on knitting, please visit dailyknitter.
If you feel you're not particularly the arty type but would like to be, consider photography. It ranks high among the group of easy-to-start hobbies for women. You can start with just your digital camera, if you have one. And with digital editing software becoming cheaper and more accessible, almost anyone can start photography!
The great thing about photography is that you can combine it with other interests. If you love nature, snap some photos on your next outdoors trip or hike. Love people? Snap some great photos of your friends!
18. Food decorating
Maybe even a little more creative than cooking, food decorating is often a bit of a fascination for women! You can decorate salads, cakes, cookies, pastries, etc. The best thing about this is that you can give it your own touch and give others something to remember you by! You can create your own signature pastry, cookies or cake with your special twist.
If you would like to get serious about food decorating, you can always join a decorating class. And you can always turn this hobby in to a business if you want to.
Another hobby that brings out a woman's creative side - gardening can be very relaxing and rewarding - if you commit to taking care of your garden. Grow your own veggie patch for good health - or just make your home look pretty, feminine and inviting!
If you want to find a good way to add your own feminine touch to your home or the world, gardening is great - and is often a great source of admiration for other people. This hobby is even accessible for apartment-living. Only the technique is a little different and there may be less space.
Whilst fun, gardening can also be quite challenging and you will need to know a thing or two if you don't. Visit garden.org for a wealth of information to get you started!
If you're the kind of woman who is contribution-minded, this is for you. If you're not contribution-minded, perhaps it's time to be?
Everyone has a gift they can give to others. Volunteering is one of the most womanly, noble and admirable things a woman can do. It's also a great way to seek fulfillment and to appreciate your own life more.
Volunteering can open your eyes to the plight of others, and it's also a great way to meet other men and women who want to give to others. There are many ways you can give. You can give your time, money effort - anything you want to give.
Audrey Hepburn did made an unforgettable impact through her work with UNICEF (WARNING: this video may potentially make you teary).
It can be difficult to find a volunteering organization that does not ask you to pay to volunteer (albeit a small amount) and to go with an organization that doesn't require you to pay can mean a fair bit of effort involved through applications and selection, but if you are serious about contributing, consider the following organizations:
Writing is a great hobby for women who love words, have a way with words and enjoy being creative. You can write letters, stories, fiction or non-fiction books (these days, you don't have to jump many hurdles to get a book published), check out BLURB for easy publishing at NO up-front costs.
You can write poems, make photo books, and even write letters to your friends. Writing is a good way to channel your thoughts and can make you a better communicator.
If you were good at writing in school, this may be a good option for you. Perhaps you can even just keep a diary and write down ideas for stories,m books, poems or letters.
If you enjoy letter writing, that may be an option, and you can even get in to the cool stuff like fine stationery like fountain pens. Even though computers have taken over our lives, writing hand-written letters can show it comes from your heart, and people appreciate hand-written letters more than ever!
22. Pole Dancing
Pole dancing is all the rage right now, and it's a performing art as well as a sport. It's a combination of gymnastics and dancing.
More recently, artistic pole dancing has been included in a non-erotic environment using Chinese poles and in circus-cabaret as well as stage performance. Of course, pole dancing is great for fitness and core strength. Lots of women treat it very seriously and become over-muscly, but pole dancing can be done just for fun, and you can also buy your own pole and install it in to your home and work it at home!
If normal pole dancing is too much for you, you can even try something like pole jam, which focuses more on your dance fluidity and requires only simple, fun and playful pole work.
If you think pole dancing is only for a certain 'type' of woman, and think it's not graceful, check out this sensational video first. Pole dancing can be done in a graceful way, and be done in a classy way! It's a great method to use your feminine triggers to attract and get a man's blood boiling uncontrollably.
23. Flower Arranging
This is a real feminine art, and you can start by yourself and do it in your own home. If you don't want to keep replenishing flowers, you can even use fake pretty flowers and arrange them and place them in vases throughout the house.
This is an accessible hobby for anyone, even if you're not a florist and professionally trained. All you need is your femininity and your creativity!
This site has flower arranging tips and articles.
If you don't have a gym membership, but have always really wanted to get one or have been meaning to, when would now be a good time to get one?
A gym membership can be one of the most valuable things for women. You don't have to lift heavy weights, you can do light weights, join classes, do stretching (which is extremely important for fitness), and even make friends.
One of the best things about the gym is that even if it's freezing cold where you are, you have NO excuse not to go!
And, if you want a place where you can exercise with minimal impact on the joints, go to the gym and use the cross trainer or the stepper! These non-impact exercises are GREAT for toning your muscles, and helping you shape your legs.
It's NEVER too late to start. The gym gives you many different choices and options, and if your gym has a pool, even BETTER!
The best thing about swimming regularly, is that it provides you an opportunity to get in to a bit of resistance exercise without the use of heavy weights. Swimming can do wonders for your body and when done consistently, can really tone the muscles all over.
Swimming is often overlooked as a form of exercise in our modern society, but even if it's the only exercise you do, swimming will give you amazing health benefits.
The other great thing you can do in a pool is water running, which involves the use of a shallow pool, and you just run up and down the lanes. More fantastic resistance exercise without the use of heavy weights, and if you've got aches and pains, or have any injuries, swimming is a great way to help heal those.
If you do any other sports, swimming is a great way to cross-train as well.
Aromatherapy involves using volatile plant oils and essential oils for relaxation, spiritual health and psychological health.
If you have a very busy schedule, and a hectic lifestyle, aromatherapy may be for you. In fact, aromatherapy is great for any woman. Choose scents that you love and that have a profound effect on you. Different people will respond to different scents.
You can either inhale essential oils or apply them to the skin. Shops like Aveda have beautiful spray-on scents. You can even just purchase some essential oils and put small droplets in to a bath. But essential oils should never be applied to the skin undiluted! It can cause irritation.
Visit Aromaweb for fantastic information on aromatherapy.
And remember that anything you apply to the skin has a very real chance of being absorbed in to the blood stream, so apply small amounts and choose carefully.
If you apply essential oils to the skin, it can become your unique signature scent, even replacing perfume!
27. Collecting antiques
It goes without saying that women are collectors! We love to keep pretty, interesting things! Collecting antiques can range from furniture to clocks to Chinese teapots. It all comes down to individual taste, but the hobby of collecting antiques requires that you at least be a little bit informed about what is good and what is not.
If you love Sunday markets, or just markets in general, this hobby could be a very real option for you.
Whether you're a beginner or an advanced collector, the site how to collect antiques will be of great help to you.
What are some more feminine hobbies? What's your favorite hobby? What hobby do you want to discover?
If you're already experienced with a hobby on this list, please offer some tips for those women who are just starting out. What things do they need to know? Do share your knowledge with us