Thanks Renee…

I think most women can go for a very long time without ANY sex and the opposite is true for men. We men, most men, realize there are other things in life than just sex when it comes to being with a woman. There are many ways to say, ‘I Love You Very Much’ than just through sex. BUT, you can get to a man’s heart faster than anything else with the right amount and satisfying sex. God put us on this planet to have a life with a woman and procreate. A team is better than one and one. As a team, you are focused on each other, your children and your life. It is a wonderful aspect of life but it can be trying at times. Your man is not perfect so give him some leeway to grow into the relationship. Communicating is the ‘most’ important element in a relationship but I warn you, and I think you know this already, that making verbal barb exchanges with him will only make him pull away from you.

This is learned from 44 years of marriage and some retrospect after my wife left this earth. I anguished for 2 months over her death and then I felt remorse for missed opportunities, in my life, with her. I started to date about two months later to push myself out of the ‘black hole’ that I was in. I received Hospice counseling and the woman counselor said you don’t need to come back after three sessions because I was saying all the things to make me mentally healthy again. That comes from being a Navy pilot, Naval Officer and Airline Captain for many years. I was taught to deal with problems immediately. As an airline captain, I had to assess the problem and effect a correction immediately. Most men do not have that type of training so they can languish longer in the rut. I miss my wife EVERYDAY and through dating, I found out how BIG she was in my life!

SO, give your BF time to understand how important you are in his life. You sound well grounded and a very loving woman. Relationships always have quirks in them. Yours is apparently no different. BUT, the ‘key’ to it is talking on an even keel to your partner in a non-threatening, non accusatory fashion. My wife made that mistake several times and I backed away from her pronto! It stopped the love flowing to and from for a period of time! Never say what you are doing to me! As soon as you get into it is about me, you will start losing him. This will go the same way with you if he says similar selfish things to you.

I hope this did not sound like a lecture. I want you and your BF to a VERY happy couple together. The relationship does require BOTH of you to have open minds and open communication channel to succeed.

Don

My former wife (widowed now) did not want me to do oral sex on her after she got older. Don’t know why she changed. So, my point here is, attitudes do change along the way when it comes to sex and oral sex. I had one wf (60+) who didn’t want me to reciprocate in oral sex so I just manipulated her. She got really turned on by doing it that way. She would have multiple orgasms on many nights. Actually, I was kind of jealous that I couldn’t do that!…Smile.

I hope that I helped you along the way. Once you get married, there is going to be problems along the way; nothing remains perfect in a marriage. In 44 years of my marriage, we had two marriage counseling sessions. Both times I said what is wrong!…smile. See, most of us men can be clueless as to underlying problems in a marriage. Women see it plainly while men are in the clouds most of the time…LOL.

Don

I need to say this first. Men do not like to get their own cum back into their mouth and then swallow it….LOL. I was told by one woman that her ex-BF liked do that, but I can say that most men do not want it back. I was told by another man that he didn’t like it back either.

My recommendation is to come off him as he ejaculates. First, you do not get his semen in your mouth. It might be healthier that way since there is a connection to throat cancer and semen, which could deliver HPV, which can cause throat cancer. The best way to avoid that is to come off the penis and let him ejaculate cleanly. I had the HPV vaccine (3 shots at age 60+). My WF does come off before I ejaculate. Of course, I tap her to let her know that I am coming. I still get the ‘best’ feeling as I ejaculate since the whole pleasure is coming from the mouth and tongue action as the act is performed. The ejaculation is just the conclusion, and of course a supreme feeling.

Now, to the harder part, giving oral sex to your woman. It is true, some woman have a distinct odor. I think it is advisable, before expecting oral sex, for the woman to wash her vagina down with a wash cloth. This will help to wash away some of the offensive odor; they are there! Why do you think you hear people talking about using Jam or whip cream smeared on during the act? It covers up some of that odor. This is not a true and tried way. It generally works to minimize and then the guy will be more carried away as he licks up the jam, whip cream or some kind of other aphrodisiac. The whole point is to make it fun for BOTH parties!!

I am trying to not to be too offensive here. I hope I have succeeded.

Don