Comments on: How to Be Feminine

By: Renee Wade

Renee Wade — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 06:30:50 +0000

Hi WK – you are right, and this piece of advice is outdated

By: WK

WK — Thu, 04 Apr 2013 19:37:08 +0000

‘If you work out, work on accentuating and improving every feminine aspect of your body. This includes the buttocks, the legs, the tummy and the breasts (weights to help the breasts defy gravity). Doing lots of heavy weights will make you butch’ – They do NOT make you look butch as we have naturally less testosterone and it’s a lot more difficult for us to gain as much mass as a man. I’m lifting heavy weights and this may look ‘masculine’ but it’s only to grow in areas such as butt and thighs, so have ‘feminine’ outcomes in mind – I’m curvy, not ‘butch’. Shame many girls are scared of weights as they fear looking like a man, however, I can see a lot of those who never work out/lift and some look ‘masculine’ and shapeless with undefined butts and legs. So it’s a misconception there. However, some females take it way too extreme and its not attractive at all…

By: Genevieve

Genevieve — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 14:07:02 +0000

It isnt about being “delicate”. For a man yes it helps to promote his manly ego of letting him open jars and reach high things on shelves for you now and then. But you dont have to go full on “im so weak i cant do anything for myself”. In the end most men will find women who act like they cannot do anything for themselves unattractive and off putting not all men no but alot. There must be a happy medium for delicate behavior. As common courtesy it is nicer to not swear like a sailor and be kind to those around you. Show the man in your life respect not submission, show you care about his opinions and beliefs and things that are important to him. But dont submit to his way of thinking by having to change your own values and opinions. That is not right or attractive, being yourself whether you are fat or skinny or strong or weak is what in the end our men want. They don’t need or want a overly weak woman who can be blown over by the wind. They will need a woman in the long run who can run a home, work and be his partner in life. Things should not be one over the other but even with both. The woman should have more delicate behavior in that she will be there for her man and not give him the fear that he isnt good enough to be able to protect her. But be strong enough that she can handle him and stand up for herself. So find a happy medium in delicate behavior!

By: laura

laura — Sat, 02 Feb 2013 03:01:20 +0000

hey renee! just wanted to say I love your site. I’m almost done reading all of your blogs before i move on to the other tabs at the top of the page. Can’t wait to read everything you have. It’s helped me SO much and made my life a lot happier!

im a personal trainer and I actually do non-competitive olympic weightlifting and powerlifting, too. I noticed you mentioned that heavy weights will make you butch, and to use light weights and do high reps to get toned. I just wanted to say, for corrections sake, that this is such a big myth! I’m petite, (5’5″, 122lbs) very well toned, and have been doing VERY heavy weight lifting for some years now. And no, I haven’t lost my feminine curves! They don’t go away, thanks to our estrogen storing fat in our hips and butt and thighs! Women simply don’t have enough testosterone to build muscle like men, so we CANNOT get bulky or “butch” without some kind of steroids!
And actually, high-rep weight training (eight to twelve reps or higher) is a body-builder style of training for muscle hypertrophy – meaning, higher reps (with a heavy weight) is used for muscle GAIN. Not just toning, but GAINING. Of course, women don’t have to worry about this unless they’re taking steroids.

Me and my female friends at the gym, and my clients, all look absolutely stunning, very feminine, still have a nice booty lol, and we lift some seriously heavy weights. Don’t worry! You CAN’T get bulky from that. We just don’t have enough testosterone to become that muscular! And unless we eat like 3000 calories a day, we don’t get that stereotypical fat/butch-female weightlifter look (this rarely happens, btw) We all look athletic, for sure, but still feminine! A good, clean diet also helps of course

anyways, thanks so much for the awesome info! keep up the great work

By: Renee Wade

Renee Wade — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 23:40:49 +0000

Hey Chan, you’re right, 19 is as good as any age. I used to think the same; that femininity was for skinny and pretty girls – wrong, ESPECIALLY in the eyes of a man!

By: Chan

Chan — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 22:18:38 +0000

Hello, and I just want to saw that reading your website has really changed how I view men, relationships and me. I could go on and on about my childhood but I don’t want to be a victim anymore, and I realize that I am feminine. Almost everyday for the past 19 years of my life, I’ve been trying to act masculine and hide the fact that I actually cry when I watch something sad on TV and that I’ve always wanted to find a “Prince Charming”. I’ve just always thought that femininity was for the “prettier” and “skinny” girls, but thank you so much for teaching me that femininity starts on the inside, not in overly done make up or short dresses. And at first I thought that maybe it was too late to be feminine, but reading all these comments makes me realize I can show my true colors at any ae and that 19 is as good as any age

By: Adele

Adele — Tue, 08 Jan 2013 02:50:58 +0000

Im trying to embrace my inner femininity. I was raised to value education and career over love, marriage or spirituality. I am learning a lot on this topic lately but I feel discouraged because I keep dwelling on my mistakes. I have a masculine man in my life, but I wonder what he thinks of me. He says he loves me, but I wonder if he is just saying that. Because I feel bad about having had so many failed relationships before him. The only thing I can say is that I’m authentic. I always try to be myself.

By: arty

arty — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 18:03:15 +0000

i’m worth it n lovd it as well

By: Denise

Denise — Sun, 02 Dec 2012 07:39:46 +0000

lol, calm down Miss Metal. No one likes an angry woman.

By: christiane

christiane — Wed, 30 May 2012 12:32:54 +0000

interesting article and interesting – still few- comments. I like the straight honesty of the metallica women. And her name represents what she thinks, feels. I honour every human. We all go through painful experiences in life and we respond to them in different ways. Vulnerability is not weakness, dont confuse these two words. In the contrary, only a strong person can be vulnerable as it means risking a lot. The more hard a woman or a human becomes, the more past pain is involved. I have most respect for those who can still love life after intense pain. Real womanhood is utterly strong.