I understand your advice to not do these things together all the time. And I understand that a man does not fall in love with a woman because she has similar interests. But I say ladies, don’t be mistaken. I’ve seen that men do value women who have a few male dominated interests and love it when a woman can be ok with sharing them. I think it builds connection. One of my best girl friends is into sports and so is her boyfriend. They often attend sporting events together. I love video games and action movies;all the males I have dated who were into such things valued this about me too…(though I’ve come to realize for other reasons I do not want a gamer boyfriend and they make better friends for me). But I do know gamer couples and the guys in those relationships feel really lucky to have a girlfriend who likes them and will play them, since most women are telling their men to put their video games away. Even the ones who aren’t into it are always intrigued by this being a hobby of mine. I mean I also have traditional feminine hobbies such as cooking, dancing, and I carry myself like a lady. A woman who is into sports and/or games and sometimes plays them with her man can still maintain her feminine mystery. I think the key is that when it’s being done competitively (i.e. you’re playing against each other) is to be playful and smile when you win rather than being a braggart like a guy would.

Where did it advise women to be “evasive and irregular” when men are trying to contact them?
Where did it advise women to “rearrange something in your house” in order to be unpredictable?
Where did it advise women to “confuse communication” with their spouses?

You made all that up. If anything, the central ideas are to be authentic and confident, exactly the opposite of what you just described. These ideas were emphasized a million times in the article. The word “predictable” however, was mentioned only once. And all that other stuff about being evasive, irregular, non-communicative, inconsistent, etc., was never mentioned at all.

Quite the opposite, somebody who’s AUTHENTIC is anything but that. Did you even read the article? It sounds like you saw the word “mysterious,” then applied your own personal bias/stereotypes about what a “mysterious person” must be like (secretive, untrustworthy, deliberately avoiding contact, unreliable), without actually reading the article.

but if we live a part , and we just see each other for sex , but we talk every day and he says he is only with me , but I’m not his girl friend after 2 years , I love him desperatly and he loves my sex , he said to me never marry me….is there any hope if I do these strategies??? can you help me to change and develop my relationship with him…thank you

i’ve been reading this article and i have to say that i am surprised to find it a bit manipulative. While most of your site discusses having and attracting an Alpha male this particular post seems to suggest a manipulative type of behavior. i don’t believe that is your intent though. With all respect, having over 20 years relationship and mentoring experience i don’t believe it is necessary to create instability or utilize some what immature tactics (like not answering the phone) to create mystery. It is absolutely possible for a woman to be fully authentic in her love and desire and it’s expression and still maintain the Mystery of being a Woman. i’d humbly urge that you consider those things in the spirit said.

~namaste

I’m glad you’ve found most of my article interesting and insightful.

And, as for your other comments: I would like to say that if you have read a few articles like you’ve said; you would know that there’s no way on earth I could run this site if I advocated ‘actively confusing communication between a man and a woman’.

I can see you’re quite certainty driven, and in regards to your point about “unpredictability”, what about being unpredictably ‘FUN’?! Maybe the women who have been in your life were just unpredictably ‘moody’ or ‘snarky’.

I think there’s a difference.

Obviously, if doing some of these things upset a relationship – I think any normal woman is wise enough to know how to ‘PICK AND CHOOSE’ her strategies from my advice.

Any woman who knows her man knows which to take and which not to take from my advice. No one man or woman is the same, and I do take that in to account when I write my posts.

I don’t suggest women implement every single strategy that I suggest.

Thanks for your input Larry.