The Ideal Man: how do you know what kind of man is right for you?

The ideal Man: How do you know what kind of man is right for you?

This can be a tricky one. Often, we women, especially younger women, are attracted to the ‘bad guy’. The bad guy is usually the type of guy who looks great, has many great masculine qualities, and may be a bit of a charmer. Often, they know how to trigger attraction in a woman. They may not know it consciously, but they definitely make a habit of it, because they get the results they want!!

The bad guy is the guy you and I might believe can protect us, make us feel like a little girl again, has a great presence about him, stands nice and tall, and to top it all off, of course he usually appears to have A LOT of confidence. (Sometimes, however, this apparent confidence can be a disguise for a deeper set of thoughts or issues he has). A bad guy would normally be VERY good at what he does for a living. Often he may even be the best at what he does. He might also be extremely good at popular sports, or a popular sport, like football! He might very well be the ALPHA MALE in a certain group! Although, this is not always the case.

There is one problem with the typical bad guy that women these days are attracted to. They may not stay FAITHFUL or LOYAL to you! This is difficult since the bad guy really can be quite attractive! So, you might be highly attracted to him, whether sexually, or emotionally.This is where a lot of women trap themselves; they know they SHOULD  avoid this type of guy, BUT they can’t help themselves! Sometimes, you might be too scared to leave this guy out of a fear of being lonely.

So, there is a way to deal with this situation. I strongly believe that a man can have the quality of being a bad guy as well as being the good guy. He can have both in his character. Admitted, there are always contradictions in life, but what I’m talking about here is a strong set of values that a guy might have, and will not break. So they can be sensitive, care a lot about you, NEVER leave you, and never be with any other woman nor want to be. When necessary, they can also be the bad guy, the one who breaks the rules. But NEVER the rules that relate to his girl! These men ARE rare, however. Not many men hold themselves to this standard. It is up to you to attract your ideal man in to your life! More importantly, you have to be so outstanding that you would attract this kind of man in to your life!

To start you off: in order to attract the kind of man you want, and have a lifelong romance with him, you will need to become aware of what kind of man is right for you. It is important that you get this right for yourself, as it can be confusing. You may be attracted to a man, but he will be useless in a relationship with you!

So, in order to become aware of what kind of man IS right for you, you simply need to write a list. I know this may sound flippant, but it can be really helpful for you. The reason is because who you choose to be in a relationship with  will be a key factor, most likely the most important factor in ensuring your lifelong happiness! SELECTION  is vitally important!

On your list, you’ll need to draw a line down the middle. on one side, label ‘qualities I want in a man’, and on the other side, label it ‘qualities I don’t like’. Be honest, and go crazy with it. Once you’re done, you’ll be more clear about what you want, and then be more aware of what it is you’re after in your love life!

Of course, as you know, nobody is perfect. So I’m not asking you to filter out any man who may appear to have one or two of the bad qualities you have on your list. It is ultimately up to you to decide whether these ‘bad’ qualities are serious enough for you to rule out a relationship with him.

‘Til next time, have a lovely day and take good care

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